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Day 67:Greiving the Dream/Acceptance
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<blockquote data-quote="compassion" data-source="post: 237392" data-attributes="member: 6393"><p>Thanks for sharing Janebrain. I really try to put stuff on her. I really try to take care of me, work my Al-Anon program and be there for my son, 18 and my husband. </p><p> I am today at a point of surrender and acceptance. There has been huge progress from the running away all night and stealing cars which is where we were 2 months ago. I have to accpet though that she is very ill with bipolar, conduct disorder and substance abuse. Plus her basic personality is very independent and stubborn. </p><p> I do think it is approprtiate to set the boudnaries. I will be takign her cell phone so she can not contact law breakers. I will give financil rewards for even 5 minutes of academics and Humane Society work. I will continue to support her health, track her moods. I do think I have made much progress in detatchment. I will contue to insist that she go to AA. She ahs a grat therapist, psychiatrist. She has worked hard and is captain of her volleyball team. </p><p> It has been and continues to be a major achievmenet to keep her out of the legal system. </p><p> husband has her at a voleyball tourney 3 hours away. I am getting a break. </p><p> I do need to keep taking care of me and keeping safe. My plan for this week is to call an Al-Anon contact id she rages.</p><p> I found out she was at a boy's house, age 20: I have knwon this kid since he was 11 or 12. </p><p> So, it is back to her taking a white chip and me setting boundaries around no blackmail and abuse . She will be directly supervied until she makes 30days. I will reward positve compliance with money. She does have focus issues so will encorage and reward any and all academic effort.</p><p> I do see this is her choice. </p><p> A huge issue with her is immpulsivity: she really is not able to regulate herself: I contrnue to pput stuff on her but if her impulse control is so poor and her need for peer approaval so high coupled with high addictive personality, she needs high level of structure and supervision. Compassion</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="compassion, post: 237392, member: 6393"] Thanks for sharing Janebrain. I really try to put stuff on her. I really try to take care of me, work my Al-Anon program and be there for my son, 18 and my husband. I am today at a point of surrender and acceptance. There has been huge progress from the running away all night and stealing cars which is where we were 2 months ago. I have to accpet though that she is very ill with bipolar, conduct disorder and substance abuse. Plus her basic personality is very independent and stubborn. I do think it is approprtiate to set the boudnaries. I will be takign her cell phone so she can not contact law breakers. I will give financil rewards for even 5 minutes of academics and Humane Society work. I will continue to support her health, track her moods. I do think I have made much progress in detatchment. I will contue to insist that she go to AA. She ahs a grat therapist, psychiatrist. She has worked hard and is captain of her volleyball team. It has been and continues to be a major achievmenet to keep her out of the legal system. husband has her at a voleyball tourney 3 hours away. I am getting a break. I do need to keep taking care of me and keeping safe. My plan for this week is to call an Al-Anon contact id she rages. I found out she was at a boy's house, age 20: I have knwon this kid since he was 11 or 12. So, it is back to her taking a white chip and me setting boundaries around no blackmail and abuse . She will be directly supervied until she makes 30days. I will reward positve compliance with money. She does have focus issues so will encorage and reward any and all academic effort. I do see this is her choice. A huge issue with her is immpulsivity: she really is not able to regulate herself: I contrnue to pput stuff on her but if her impulse control is so poor and her need for peer approaval so high coupled with high addictive personality, she needs high level of structure and supervision. Compassion [/QUOTE]
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