thycamom63
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School was out on Wed. and I work Sun.-Thurs. so my difficult child and I planned to spend the day together. By noon I was ready to go to work and work for free it was that bad and I don't even really like my job. difficult child woke up about 8am and was hyper to the max. Talking, singing, dancing, watching tv at a loud volume. Just basically rude. I thought well maybe I could salvage the day if I took him to IHOP as a special mom/son date. My mistake was I told him about it way too early so then it was "when are we going, I'm starving" for a couple of hours. We couldn't go until Fedex delivered his Christmas present. I knew they came areound 11 or 12 so I said we'd go after Fedex was here. Well he was excited in the car and we had none stop talking about whatever popped into his head. difficult child is 15, but is the height of about a 10 yr. old. We go to IHOP and of course, they want to give him a kids' menu and crayons. I said no he's a freshman in high school. When we were almost done with our meal he started acting manic. He started laughing like crazy for no reason and then would pick at his pancakes with his fingers. We hurried up and got out of there. This was my only day to get my husband's Christmas present as tomorrow we are supposed to have an ice/snow storm and I work on Sunday and Monday. husband doesn't get off work until 7pm so waiting until he gets home is not possible. difficult child seems ok at Walmart so we venture on to another store. He starts throwing a little ball in one store. The whole time talk, talk, talk. Acts very immature. We go home. Then I have to pick up my medicine and get a few groceries before the storm hits tomorrow. He is fine for most of the shopping but takes the cart and starts running down the aisle. Going out to the car he keeps running into me or making the cart stop. Then when I tell him to put the cart away he gives it a shove and it almost hits a parked car. Also through the store he's saying "hi" to everyone. Still will not stop talking. Behaviors keep building at home. He does things like eat with his fingers, flip the fork so potatoes go flying, tilts his plate so food goes on the floor. husband tells him to go to his room for a cool down for a few minutes. difficult child won't go, husband calmly tells him to go and then it escalates. husband walks difficult child to his room, but difficult child breaks free and goes running into our bedroom, throws himself on our bed. husband is getting ticked now pulls difficult child off our bed. difficult child starts screaming like he's being killed and yells "help, call the police". We live in an apartment so others can here him. Luckily no one lives above us right now. I just have a melt down and am crying uncontrollably. Somehow difficult child gets back out in the living room and husband is restraining him. He calmed down and stayed quietly in his room for awhile. I tried to talk to him when he was calm. All he keeps saying is Dad is mean, Dad hurt me, Dad restrained me. I tried to explain that if he would have gone to his room none of this would happen. All he does is blame everyone else and say he doesn't want to live in our family. We adopted him when he was 8. It's been almost 7 years now, but he still says he wants to live in another family whenever we try to hold him accountable.
husband was just diagnosed with diabetes 10 days ago so we are trying to adjust to that. I have heart problems. This happens every Christmas season. I can't take much of this anymore. I know come February things will calm down. He is perfect in school. His teachers all talk about his wonderful behavior. Wish I could see some of that.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this? He is on Lithium 300mg in am and 600 mg in pm, ablify 10mg in am and 15 mg in pm. I don't think these medications are working for him or is he just that much of a control freak.
Thanks!
husband was just diagnosed with diabetes 10 days ago so we are trying to adjust to that. I have heart problems. This happens every Christmas season. I can't take much of this anymore. I know come February things will calm down. He is perfect in school. His teachers all talk about his wonderful behavior. Wish I could see some of that.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this? He is on Lithium 300mg in am and 600 mg in pm, ablify 10mg in am and 15 mg in pm. I don't think these medications are working for him or is he just that much of a control freak.
Thanks!