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<blockquote data-quote="automaton" data-source="post: 551008" data-attributes="member: 15222"><p>Thank you, all. It's never occured to me to get them involved; I just see their involvement as so negative.</p><p></p><p>I am a 32 y.o. student; re-educating for a new career because I haven't been able to find work since 2010. I spent this whole past summer doing fun things with my kids; I actually thought progress was being made. Then school started, and we're right back where we were about 5 months ago. I am married, but not to her father; her father is not in the picture much, and wasn't in the picture at all until less than a year ago.</p><p></p><p>Five months ago, I was at a job interview when I got an urgent call from the school that difficult child wasn't feeling well. When I asked what was wrong, they were vague, but said seemed to be running a fever. When I got there, she was playing, running around, hiding under desks - not looking a bit ill. So, I told her let's go, I'll check her temp at home. The school counselor stopped me and asked one of the office assistants to keep and eye on difficult child while we had a talk. She told me that difficult child told her that she'd try to kill herself by hanging herself with a belt in her closet, and that I wouldn't be allowed to take difficult child unless they could be assured I was taking her to an urgent care mental facility. I explained that because our family is military affiliated, it won't work that way for us; at best, I could take her to the ER, otherwise, I'd be looking at making an appointment. with- her PCP who would then have to give me a referal to take her to a mental health facility. Counselor insisted that option 2 wasn't an option, and they'd be checking up on her in 12 hours. At that time, she wasn't even tall enough to touch the bar in her closet - she's quite petite; 6th percentile on height - and I pointed this fact out to the Counselor only to have her insist. At home, issues had been escallating. She'd been hurting one of our pets who was a rescue and didn't have the ability to get away, fight back, or even cry loud enough for anyone to know he was being hurt. The baby was also mysteriously getting hurt often. Always when she was in the room with- difficult child and always when I had to turn my back for a second.</p><p></p><p>The Behavioral On-Call at the ER placed her mandatory 72 hour watch, and then had her placed in a mental hospital for high risk youth. Previously, she'd been diagnosis'd ADHD. The psychiatrist there stripped her of the ADHD diagnosis, and diagnosis'd her with all of the above instead. She had been on clonidine for insomnia, but it wasn't working at all - to the tune of her being awake sometimes for a week at a stretch. She was switched to melatonin which has worked wonders. It's not a miracle cure, and she still has nights where sleep does not come easy, but at least she no longer has nights where sleep does not come at all. She had also been on adderall and then what seemed to me to be alarmingly high doses of concerta for the ADHD; those were replaced with zoloft (currently 150 mg) for anxiety and risperdal (currently 1 mg taken in 1/2 mg doses twice per day) for hallucinations.</p><p></p><p>I think it's natural in this situation to blame yourself, and I did. I made spending time with- difficult child my #1 priority the entire summer. We watched what she wanted to watch on t.v., we played the games she wanted to play, I bought season tickets to a water park about an hour away, and we spent *every* Saturday there from the time they opened until about 30 min. before they closed. She just told me a few days ago that I never spend any time with her; I'm always too busy grocery shopping or cleaning the house or cooking dinner. Her psychosis warps her sense of reality, and to her, I really don't spend any time with her, so I guess that, no matter what, there just seem to be no winners.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="automaton, post: 551008, member: 15222"] Thank you, all. It's never occured to me to get them involved; I just see their involvement as so negative. I am a 32 y.o. student; re-educating for a new career because I haven't been able to find work since 2010. I spent this whole past summer doing fun things with my kids; I actually thought progress was being made. Then school started, and we're right back where we were about 5 months ago. I am married, but not to her father; her father is not in the picture much, and wasn't in the picture at all until less than a year ago. Five months ago, I was at a job interview when I got an urgent call from the school that difficult child wasn't feeling well. When I asked what was wrong, they were vague, but said seemed to be running a fever. When I got there, she was playing, running around, hiding under desks - not looking a bit ill. So, I told her let's go, I'll check her temp at home. The school counselor stopped me and asked one of the office assistants to keep and eye on difficult child while we had a talk. She told me that difficult child told her that she'd try to kill herself by hanging herself with a belt in her closet, and that I wouldn't be allowed to take difficult child unless they could be assured I was taking her to an urgent care mental facility. I explained that because our family is military affiliated, it won't work that way for us; at best, I could take her to the ER, otherwise, I'd be looking at making an appointment. with- her PCP who would then have to give me a referal to take her to a mental health facility. Counselor insisted that option 2 wasn't an option, and they'd be checking up on her in 12 hours. At that time, she wasn't even tall enough to touch the bar in her closet - she's quite petite; 6th percentile on height - and I pointed this fact out to the Counselor only to have her insist. At home, issues had been escallating. She'd been hurting one of our pets who was a rescue and didn't have the ability to get away, fight back, or even cry loud enough for anyone to know he was being hurt. The baby was also mysteriously getting hurt often. Always when she was in the room with- difficult child and always when I had to turn my back for a second. The Behavioral On-Call at the ER placed her mandatory 72 hour watch, and then had her placed in a mental hospital for high risk youth. Previously, she'd been diagnosis'd ADHD. The psychiatrist there stripped her of the ADHD diagnosis, and diagnosis'd her with all of the above instead. She had been on clonidine for insomnia, but it wasn't working at all - to the tune of her being awake sometimes for a week at a stretch. She was switched to melatonin which has worked wonders. It's not a miracle cure, and she still has nights where sleep does not come easy, but at least she no longer has nights where sleep does not come at all. She had also been on adderall and then what seemed to me to be alarmingly high doses of concerta for the ADHD; those were replaced with zoloft (currently 150 mg) for anxiety and risperdal (currently 1 mg taken in 1/2 mg doses twice per day) for hallucinations. I think it's natural in this situation to blame yourself, and I did. I made spending time with- difficult child my #1 priority the entire summer. We watched what she wanted to watch on t.v., we played the games she wanted to play, I bought season tickets to a water park about an hour away, and we spent *every* Saturday there from the time they opened until about 30 min. before they closed. She just told me a few days ago that I never spend any time with her; I'm always too busy grocery shopping or cleaning the house or cooking dinner. Her psychosis warps her sense of reality, and to her, I really don't spend any time with her, so I guess that, no matter what, there just seem to be no winners. [/QUOTE]
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