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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 115929" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>MB,</p><p></p><p>We tried something similar with our difficult child and it didn't work. Instead it raised the tension level in our house to intolerable levels until it came to a horrible blowup. It worries me since I know that you posted that you are dealing with severe depression and financial troubles already and this tension might just exacerbate your situation.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child did not see it as a learning experience. Unfortunately, she saw it as just one more injustice in a lifetime of oppression and her ODDness just made it one more battle to fight.</p><p></p><p>The only thing that finally worked for us was to make her leave. It wasn't easy but she is doing relatively well now and our relationship is 100% improved. She even announced to my sister in law recently during a family trip to Florida that "my mom and I get along now."</p><p></p><p>I guarantee that wouldn't be happening if she lived here. She spent a few nights here last month while studying for final exams and I was once again reminded about what a slob she is and I was right back to following behind her and cleaning up her messes.</p><p></p><p>I sincerely hope that this works for you, though, and that your difficult child grows from the experience.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 115929, member: 1967"] MB, We tried something similar with our difficult child and it didn't work. Instead it raised the tension level in our house to intolerable levels until it came to a horrible blowup. It worries me since I know that you posted that you are dealing with severe depression and financial troubles already and this tension might just exacerbate your situation. My difficult child did not see it as a learning experience. Unfortunately, she saw it as just one more injustice in a lifetime of oppression and her ODDness just made it one more battle to fight. The only thing that finally worked for us was to make her leave. It wasn't easy but she is doing relatively well now and our relationship is 100% improved. She even announced to my sister in law recently during a family trip to Florida that "my mom and I get along now." I guarantee that wouldn't be happening if she lived here. She spent a few nights here last month while studying for final exams and I was once again reminded about what a slob she is and I was right back to following behind her and cleaning up her messes. I sincerely hope that this works for you, though, and that your difficult child grows from the experience. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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