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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 391864"><p>Jena and HaoZi are totally correct. I have FINALLY realized that reacting at all to the rages is very counterproductive. When difficult child starts, easy child and I leave the room or house for a little while until it's over. difficult child calms down faster if there's no audience. As far as chores, difficult child frequently refuses but my reply is always "then no electronics, game, whatever he's planning" if it's not done in (so many) minutes. He will yell, slam, throw, pound, etc but usually does the chore because he knows I will not negotiate and will not change my mind. When he continues to refuse, I follow through with the loss of whatever privilege I said he was going to lose. It took some time and patience and ALOT of repetition before I could do it and he learned I wasn't joking.</p><p> </p><p>Good Luck! You have come to the right place. Many smart parents who have been there done that. We have all cried, screamed, vented, and had our own little meltdowns more than once.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 391864"] Jena and HaoZi are totally correct. I have FINALLY realized that reacting at all to the rages is very counterproductive. When difficult child starts, easy child and I leave the room or house for a little while until it's over. difficult child calms down faster if there's no audience. As far as chores, difficult child frequently refuses but my reply is always "then no electronics, game, whatever he's planning" if it's not done in (so many) minutes. He will yell, slam, throw, pound, etc but usually does the chore because he knows I will not negotiate and will not change my mind. When he continues to refuse, I follow through with the loss of whatever privilege I said he was going to lose. It took some time and patience and ALOT of repetition before I could do it and he learned I wasn't joking. Good Luck! You have come to the right place. Many smart parents who have been there done that. We have all cried, screamed, vented, and had our own little meltdowns more than once. [/QUOTE]
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