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<blockquote data-quote="Buglover" data-source="post: 513049" data-attributes="member: 14112"><p>Wow you are all so helpful, I guess I found a good forum! I will try to answer everybodys questions/comments. First of all, she has not even been to a psychiatric yet, just an Occupational Therapist (OT), who diagnosed her with sensory processing disorder (SPD) and added that there might be something else going on, and that if Occupational Therapist (OT) therapy failed to help her we should get her evaluated for other things. I am crossing my fingers its just sensory processing disorder (SPD). Much of the time she is completely normal, her friends and their parents all look shocked when I mention tantrums, and I am shocked that they have never seen one! She literally saves it all for us <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>which is pretty common with sensory processing disorder (SPD)....but anyway, I am considering medications, its just that she will go 24 hours of "normal little girl" and then have a very bad day the next day, I don't want to lose the normal little girl time I have with her. I am afraid of losing the good days to a drugged kid, as I know all of you have been too. I have considered autism and read about it a ton, since daughter was 2, and it just doesn't seem like her. Her eye contact is excellent, she is extremely observant, happy, etc most of the time. It is when she gets hungry/hot/loud environments/smells that she can just blow up, in addition to transitions and math homework. She is at a very hard NCLB Blue Ribbon school, I thought the structure would be good for her. Maybe a "regular" school would figure "a few fall through the cracks, oh well". This school will not let her fall through the cracks, but I am not so sure its best for her self esteem either. I will try that explosive child book, I have seen it on AMazon. She is on wait list for Occupational Therapist (OT), should start within the next 2 weeks. The Occupational Therapist (OT) seemed to think that, along with changes at home, will help tremendously. I hope so! </p><p></p><p>SearchingforRainbows you sound like me, researching every disorder on earth, ad nauseum, hubby so busy with work and plus he is in his last few college classes too. Plus we have a very argumentative 15yo who is gifted and maybe too smart for his own good (he would be a great lawyer!). </p><p></p><p>The figit bag is a good idea. The Occupational Therapist (OT) also recommended having her DS/nintendogs with headphones ready in the car when I get her from school, in addition to her snack and juice box. That way she can decompress in her own little controlled world and maybe wont meltdown. I also ordered kid sized earplugs, they haven't arrived yet, but she sounds interested in using them because she really doesn't like noise. The visual cards are a good idea, she seems to be a visual learner. She is also a picky eater, but no pickier than me. Thats half the problem I think, all these quirks of hers (no naps after about 18 months, not falling asleep until 10:00pm, having only 10 foods she will eat)are things that I did/do, so I assumed it was genetics, which it was, I just didn't realize it was a disorder. I think this would all be so much easier for me to deal with if I weren't also auditory defensive because when she starts her tantrums I literally feel like I will go nuts, so I have to stuff earplugs in my ears which makes her really mad. We must be quite a sight, someday I may even chuckle about it. I think my husbands reactions are stress/work related plus the sheer unpleasantness of being around a screaming/wailing child. How can they make so much noise if noise bothers them so much anyway?</p><p></p><p>As far as opting out, he knows I can deal with her better and that she responds better to me, so if he is overwhlmed he just walks away and knows I will step in. It makes me angry but also I wish I could do the same thing sometimes, my own mother even hands her off to me and its her only granddaughter. As I said, we are just overwhelmed, both of us. </p><p></p><p>But now I am looking forward to the Occupational Therapist (OT) therapy even more, I so want for her to have a happy productive life. Thank you all for helping, and any additional comments are welcome. I feel much better now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Buglover, post: 513049, member: 14112"] Wow you are all so helpful, I guess I found a good forum! I will try to answer everybodys questions/comments. First of all, she has not even been to a psychiatric yet, just an Occupational Therapist (OT), who diagnosed her with sensory processing disorder (SPD) and added that there might be something else going on, and that if Occupational Therapist (OT) therapy failed to help her we should get her evaluated for other things. I am crossing my fingers its just sensory processing disorder (SPD). Much of the time she is completely normal, her friends and their parents all look shocked when I mention tantrums, and I am shocked that they have never seen one! She literally saves it all for us :) which is pretty common with sensory processing disorder (SPD)....but anyway, I am considering medications, its just that she will go 24 hours of "normal little girl" and then have a very bad day the next day, I don't want to lose the normal little girl time I have with her. I am afraid of losing the good days to a drugged kid, as I know all of you have been too. I have considered autism and read about it a ton, since daughter was 2, and it just doesn't seem like her. Her eye contact is excellent, she is extremely observant, happy, etc most of the time. It is when she gets hungry/hot/loud environments/smells that she can just blow up, in addition to transitions and math homework. She is at a very hard NCLB Blue Ribbon school, I thought the structure would be good for her. Maybe a "regular" school would figure "a few fall through the cracks, oh well". This school will not let her fall through the cracks, but I am not so sure its best for her self esteem either. I will try that explosive child book, I have seen it on AMazon. She is on wait list for Occupational Therapist (OT), should start within the next 2 weeks. The Occupational Therapist (OT) seemed to think that, along with changes at home, will help tremendously. I hope so! SearchingforRainbows you sound like me, researching every disorder on earth, ad nauseum, hubby so busy with work and plus he is in his last few college classes too. Plus we have a very argumentative 15yo who is gifted and maybe too smart for his own good (he would be a great lawyer!). The figit bag is a good idea. The Occupational Therapist (OT) also recommended having her DS/nintendogs with headphones ready in the car when I get her from school, in addition to her snack and juice box. That way she can decompress in her own little controlled world and maybe wont meltdown. I also ordered kid sized earplugs, they haven't arrived yet, but she sounds interested in using them because she really doesn't like noise. The visual cards are a good idea, she seems to be a visual learner. She is also a picky eater, but no pickier than me. Thats half the problem I think, all these quirks of hers (no naps after about 18 months, not falling asleep until 10:00pm, having only 10 foods she will eat)are things that I did/do, so I assumed it was genetics, which it was, I just didn't realize it was a disorder. I think this would all be so much easier for me to deal with if I weren't also auditory defensive because when she starts her tantrums I literally feel like I will go nuts, so I have to stuff earplugs in my ears which makes her really mad. We must be quite a sight, someday I may even chuckle about it. I think my husbands reactions are stress/work related plus the sheer unpleasantness of being around a screaming/wailing child. How can they make so much noise if noise bothers them so much anyway? As far as opting out, he knows I can deal with her better and that she responds better to me, so if he is overwhlmed he just walks away and knows I will step in. It makes me angry but also I wish I could do the same thing sometimes, my own mother even hands her off to me and its her only granddaughter. As I said, we are just overwhelmed, both of us. But now I am looking forward to the Occupational Therapist (OT) therapy even more, I so want for her to have a happy productive life. Thank you all for helping, and any additional comments are welcome. I feel much better now. [/QUOTE]
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