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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 153803" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Here's a couple of things that work for me when this happens (and it has happened A LOT):</p><p> </p><p>1. Assigning a specific consequence to a specific behavior ahead of time and consistent follow-through for the behavior. Also assign a specific reward for meeting expectations, and giving it in a reasonably prompt timeframe. </p><p> </p><p>"We're going to go to X. When we are there, I expect you to do 0X and NOT do Y. If you do X, you will get prize A. If you do Y, you will get consequence Z. I will help remind you of what is expected."</p><p> </p><p>2. Front-loading the difficult child so they know what is expected in the situation they are about to enter. This involves remind them of the consequence for not behaving as expected, and the reward for compliance.</p><p> </p><p>3. Verbally reminding again and again during the situation of the expected behavior. When difficult child is getting stuck, I ask "Are you getting stuck again?" Sometimes that is enough for him to shift gears himself.</p><p> </p><p>And sometimes, none of this works, but I've found that it's still important to follow through with what you've previously stated because eventually the consistency does sink in.</p><p> </p><p>I also want to say there were lots of great suggestions listed above here, too. Sometimes we just have to keep trying different things until we find what works.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 153803, member: 3444"] Here's a couple of things that work for me when this happens (and it has happened A LOT): 1. Assigning a specific consequence to a specific behavior ahead of time and consistent follow-through for the behavior. Also assign a specific reward for meeting expectations, and giving it in a reasonably prompt timeframe. "We're going to go to X. When we are there, I expect you to do 0X and NOT do Y. If you do X, you will get prize A. If you do Y, you will get consequence Z. I will help remind you of what is expected." 2. Front-loading the difficult child so they know what is expected in the situation they are about to enter. This involves remind them of the consequence for not behaving as expected, and the reward for compliance. 3. Verbally reminding again and again during the situation of the expected behavior. When difficult child is getting stuck, I ask "Are you getting stuck again?" Sometimes that is enough for him to shift gears himself. And sometimes, none of this works, but I've found that it's still important to follow through with what you've previously stated because eventually the consistency does sink in. I also want to say there were lots of great suggestions listed above here, too. Sometimes we just have to keep trying different things until we find what works. [/QUOTE]
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