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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 146043" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Toto - </p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry for husband's best friends passing. How awful to loose your childhood friends at such an early age. Please pass my condolences on to him. And for his step sisters mother's passing. </p><p> </p><p>I guess the thing about funerals is there really is not a protocol to follow on what is right or wrong, because NO MATTER what you do - you will always end up peeving someone off - people choose the oddest moments to draw their lines in the sand. In this particular instance based on what you've told us, here are my thoughts. </p><p> </p><p>I think your husband's DAD is the one that you should put on a plane for the funeral. If he wants your husband to go in his place, then he should discuss it with his wife and of course we all know how that would go - but seriously - Tell the man if HE wants to go -GO! As far as his 1/2 sister knowing how things are and not really wanting him to come - I think you've sent that enormous basket, you've offered her a plane ride for a basically free vacation - and THAT to me at the time of my Mothers death would be more appreciated than if my 1/2 brother came. Unless that was the woman that raised him? I don't think I'd tell husband to go. That plus the fact that K will go into another tailspin. (That in itself is another something to consider but - if Daddy travels - K may have to get used to it more than she wants/is able to at this time.) </p><p> </p><p>What if you called the 1/2 sis and said - Look I can come, or I can buy Dad a ticket to go, or I can leave an open ended invitation for you to come here after you are settled and just visit for a few days - no kids etc?? </p><p> </p><p>What think?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 146043, member: 4964"] Toto - I am so sorry for husband's best friends passing. How awful to loose your childhood friends at such an early age. Please pass my condolences on to him. And for his step sisters mother's passing. I guess the thing about funerals is there really is not a protocol to follow on what is right or wrong, because NO MATTER what you do - you will always end up peeving someone off - people choose the oddest moments to draw their lines in the sand. In this particular instance based on what you've told us, here are my thoughts. I think your husband's DAD is the one that you should put on a plane for the funeral. If he wants your husband to go in his place, then he should discuss it with his wife and of course we all know how that would go - but seriously - Tell the man if HE wants to go -GO! As far as his 1/2 sister knowing how things are and not really wanting him to come - I think you've sent that enormous basket, you've offered her a plane ride for a basically free vacation - and THAT to me at the time of my Mothers death would be more appreciated than if my 1/2 brother came. Unless that was the woman that raised him? I don't think I'd tell husband to go. That plus the fact that K will go into another tailspin. (That in itself is another something to consider but - if Daddy travels - K may have to get used to it more than she wants/is able to at this time.) What if you called the 1/2 sis and said - Look I can come, or I can buy Dad a ticket to go, or I can leave an open ended invitation for you to come here after you are settled and just visit for a few days - no kids etc?? What think? [/QUOTE]
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