Sushi. Hi. Good job.
I think you are wise to avoid confrontation. We have found everybody loses when we push back.
What startingfresh says about the trauma of kids as much kidnapped in the middle of the night to these programs, makes me shudder.
But the reality is this: these young men will accept no limit. They do not deal with good faith. There is no reciprocity.
When I tell my son the jig is up, he will not leave the house. He makes suicidal gestures like running down the street with an electrical cable around his neck.
An argument can be made for the kidnap scenario. Mind you. I am not making it.
But I can see where those choices are made.
My son is more than a decade older. But we have had to deal with belts around his neck, cops a couple of times, hospitalization, squatting on our property, etc. All within the past month.
This was triggered by us drawing a line.
The caveats, based upon our experience?
As you were, be careful about confrontation.
Be sure you have every contingency covered if you do.
Be very aware about letting them back in your space.
