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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 535631" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Thank you.</p><p>Right now, I have his wallet and all of his money.</p><p>It would really help if I could get husband to spend more time with-difficult child ... but when I suggest it, he blows a gasket and gives me a list of all the things he does with-difficult child.</p><p>I want him to play baseball, take him more places ... I feel like the therapist is taking husband's place.</p><p></p><p>I do think that difficult child is manipulating us. As a friend put it yrs ago, he is a pitt bull in a house of poodles. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>But I also believe that difficult child is on the spectrum and for whatever reason, this is a defense mechanism he has built up.</p><p></p><p>He doesn't "get it" when I continue to have him stay home for something he did a week ago. He explodes and remembers some obscure part of a sentence that stood out for him, but which I barely recall saying.</p><p>I need to sit down with-him today and explain in detail about the money and how serious it is, and how close is it to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or a boot camp. And that it doesn't mean that we don't love him. He was sobbing yesterday and that was not manipulation. He was truly upset. The good part is that the psychiatrist made him stay in the room and talk it out. difficult child's initial response was to flee. </p><p>Baby steps. For all of us.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and yes, I do think that they have shared pot and that it is small amounts.</p><p>I can't wait for camp when he's away from these kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 535631, member: 3419"] Thank you. Right now, I have his wallet and all of his money. It would really help if I could get husband to spend more time with-difficult child ... but when I suggest it, he blows a gasket and gives me a list of all the things he does with-difficult child. I want him to play baseball, take him more places ... I feel like the therapist is taking husband's place. I do think that difficult child is manipulating us. As a friend put it yrs ago, he is a pitt bull in a house of poodles. :) But I also believe that difficult child is on the spectrum and for whatever reason, this is a defense mechanism he has built up. He doesn't "get it" when I continue to have him stay home for something he did a week ago. He explodes and remembers some obscure part of a sentence that stood out for him, but which I barely recall saying. I need to sit down with-him today and explain in detail about the money and how serious it is, and how close is it to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or a boot camp. And that it doesn't mean that we don't love him. He was sobbing yesterday and that was not manipulation. He was truly upset. The good part is that the psychiatrist made him stay in the room and talk it out. difficult child's initial response was to flee. Baby steps. For all of us. Oh, and yes, I do think that they have shared pot and that it is small amounts. I can't wait for camp when he's away from these kids. [/QUOTE]
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