Once adoption happens, they are yours and no caseworker follow up. You do not always get all info for various reasons. Often they dont know. Our son hid his attachment order from all adults and even psychiatrists missed it in him. The children he knew in other families were terrorized by him and nobody from any of his former foster families ever caught on to how sick our child was. Or how dangerous. This is after he admitted that he had maliciously (not child curiousity) acted out sexually on younger kids "since I was five years old." And none of them ever told their parents about his abuse of them.
He learned to con mental health professuonals and caseworkers. If we had known his true history, he never would have joined our family. After we found out, well, sexual abuse would be a dealbreaker for us for any child in our home. Evrn a biological child. We knew it was beyond our ability to deal with a child who would hurt his siblings and other kids that way.
And we had loved him so much.
