Hi - this is my first post - I found this group while trying to figure out what to do about my 17 difficult child. First a little background - I am divorced and my difficult child lives with me - about 9 months ago his behavior started to become a problem - he was smoking pot and lying about it. As time went on, the behavior has escalated. Over the summer he entered the house of very close friends of ours while they were away and got high in their basement (with 2 other friends) and ate a lot of their food. Last month he left his father's house (he was grounded) and went to a college several hours away overnight and last weekend he didn't come home on Saturday night. During all of this he refuses to listed to anything I say - he is supposed to be grounded and continues to leave the house or not come home after school - staying out until 11 PM during the weekend and 2 AM on the weekends. In addition to his definance he is beligerent and just down right mean and nasty. We (difficult child, ex and I) went to a new therapist 2 weeks ago and he was supposed to go this past week and totally blew off the appointment. He has stolen money from me on at least 2 seperate occations and now refuses to go to the therapist. I am at a complete loss as to what to do. The therapist suggested calling DCF which I did and they were not helpful. No one seems to have any valid ideas or a plan. I have spoken to several people at his school including the police officer that works with the students. He is finding out about taking my son to court for the theft of the money and seeing a clerk instead of a judge. I'm not sure that will help because I don't think there are any true consequesnes if he disobeys the clerk. He is failing all put one class (has a D in that class) and is totally out of control. I am so stressed and don't know what to do. Any ideas, information, suggestions, etc. would be greatly appreciated. He clearly needs help, but he refuses to go. I'm sorry if this rambling on I am just at my wits end. Thanks.