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<blockquote data-quote="FV_13" data-source="post: 383182"><p>Ok - I have now lost my post 3 times! My son is gone again! He just had his wisdon teeth out this morning and he is gone! The ibupropen was working for the pain so I gave him a vicodin that was prescribed and it must have made it feel well enough to leave. I guess my question at this moment is what can be done to get him the wake up call he needs to get back on track. How can he be "made" to listen. Is a therapeutic boarding school the answer? I don't know what to do and am so on the edge and so stressed out. I think we are past the taking things away mode - he doesn't seem to care. I have the keys to the car already and will be taking the cell phone tonight when he sleeps. My ex and I are on the same page, my friends did not press charged for the breaking/entering, I drug tested him this moring and it was positive for just THC and I am working with the school resource officer (liason between PD and HS), but everyone keeps telling me there isn't much that can be done which is why I keep coming back to a boarding school for toubled kids. He needs help and I can't watch him ruin his life and once he turns 18 we lose the little bit of control that we have. There is no doubt that having someone (therapist) to talk to for me would be beneficial, but my focus is on trying to get him help and with working full time it doesn't leave much time. The problem I have with not grounding him is that he basically gets what he wants and there would then be no consequences for his actions and I believe that will create more problems. He says he wants to go to college, but it is October of his senior year and he has done nothing. In the middle of his sophomore year he was diagnosed with executive functions issues and doesn't seem able to plan more than 5 minutes in to the future. He is very angry and I can certainly deal with the name calling, etc., but it's the defiance I can't deal with. The kids he's hanging around with are a problem and although he is not driving he is in cars with other kids - all of whom think it's no big deal to drive while stoned. The bad behavior is escalating and I am terrified and don't know what to do. </p><p> </p><p>Thanks for your post and welcome - I'm glad I found you guys!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="FV_13, post: 383182"] Ok - I have now lost my post 3 times! My son is gone again! He just had his wisdon teeth out this morning and he is gone! The ibupropen was working for the pain so I gave him a vicodin that was prescribed and it must have made it feel well enough to leave. I guess my question at this moment is what can be done to get him the wake up call he needs to get back on track. How can he be "made" to listen. Is a therapeutic boarding school the answer? I don't know what to do and am so on the edge and so stressed out. I think we are past the taking things away mode - he doesn't seem to care. I have the keys to the car already and will be taking the cell phone tonight when he sleeps. My ex and I are on the same page, my friends did not press charged for the breaking/entering, I drug tested him this moring and it was positive for just THC and I am working with the school resource officer (liason between PD and HS), but everyone keeps telling me there isn't much that can be done which is why I keep coming back to a boarding school for toubled kids. He needs help and I can't watch him ruin his life and once he turns 18 we lose the little bit of control that we have. There is no doubt that having someone (therapist) to talk to for me would be beneficial, but my focus is on trying to get him help and with working full time it doesn't leave much time. The problem I have with not grounding him is that he basically gets what he wants and there would then be no consequences for his actions and I believe that will create more problems. He says he wants to go to college, but it is October of his senior year and he has done nothing. In the middle of his sophomore year he was diagnosed with executive functions issues and doesn't seem able to plan more than 5 minutes in to the future. He is very angry and I can certainly deal with the name calling, etc., but it's the defiance I can't deal with. The kids he's hanging around with are a problem and although he is not driving he is in cars with other kids - all of whom think it's no big deal to drive while stoned. The bad behavior is escalating and I am terrified and don't know what to do. Thanks for your post and welcome - I'm glad I found you guys! [/QUOTE]
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