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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 712906" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi HH, I'm coming in a couple of days late on this post. I think the others that have shared have given great advice.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I think you are mistaken here. You did create a safe place in your home but 18 and 22 have made life choices that have changed it by disrespecting you and your home. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, you do need to grieve for what you thought would be. I too had to do this. I came to understand that my expectations of how "our lives" should go was just that, MINE. I have learned that I cannot project my ideas onto my son, no parent can. It's an illusion when we the parents have an idea in our minds of how we think our children's lives should turn out.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Please don't regret this. Embrace it! Know that you did everything you could to offer your children a loving and stable home. Never second guess yourself.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line, our children get to an age where they start making their own choices, good or bad. We the parents have zero control over that. The best thing we can do for them is to let them live out the consequences of their own choices.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us here.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 712906, member: 18516"] Hi HH, I'm coming in a couple of days late on this post. I think the others that have shared have given great advice. I think you are mistaken here. You did create a safe place in your home but 18 and 22 have made life choices that have changed it by disrespecting you and your home. Yes, you do need to grieve for what you thought would be. I too had to do this. I came to understand that my expectations of how "our lives" should go was just that, MINE. I have learned that I cannot project my ideas onto my son, no parent can. It's an illusion when we the parents have an idea in our minds of how we think our children's lives should turn out. Please don't regret this. Embrace it! Know that you did everything you could to offer your children a loving and stable home. Never second guess yourself. Bottom line, our children get to an age where they start making their own choices, good or bad. We the parents have zero control over that. The best thing we can do for them is to let them live out the consequences of their own choices. I'm glad you found us here. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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