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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 511129" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>well, from my own experience and from listening here and to people I have worked with in the past...not to mention books and articles... Really, if kids are having issues, they usually are struggling for some reason. Really as my home psychologist whom I truly respect says about my son and all the kids he works with, it doesn't matter if they are doing it "for attention" or to be manipulative etc... bottom line is they are doing it and we need to help them. They are showing that they don't have the skills to do better or at the very least the skills/ability to access the skills to do better (like what happens with many kids with adhd with impulse control...they may be able to state in calm times what to do but in real life...they become too disorganized in thinking and their brain wiring prevents making better choices).</p><p></p><p>I have felt my worst as a parent, even if it was unwarranted, when I have missed something. The most consistently, uncontested research for childhood problems of many sorts says that early intervention is connected to better outcomes. Does it mean that everything will be perfect? of course not. But you will never have to look back and wonder if you had started earlier in your search to support her, could things be different.</p><p></p><p>So that is a long way to say YES. I am sure you are exhausted because of what is going on with your son and other things in life. But she is giving you a clear message that she needs help and she is very young. Even if nothing is wrong with a child, kids at that age are mostly in it for themselves. (yes I know there are exceptions, but developmentally this is normal) Especially given the risk factors in your life...not the least of which being that some Autism is now thought to be genetic and many have more than one person in a family with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)-like symptoms. </p><p></p><p>(just an outsider's perspective... eating issues can be the result of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) symptoms.... or at the least sensory integration symptoms. She may have rules in her head about food or she may not like certain textures, smells, tastes, colors, etc....Just lots to double check because these things can seem very "on purpose" when they do them. I have found myself eating humble pie many times when I have ultimately found out that there was an underlying explanation for a behavior. )</p><p></p><p>What can it hurt to double check? (though I know it takes a ton of energy, so go easy on yourself) HUGS, Dee</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 511129, member: 12886"] well, from my own experience and from listening here and to people I have worked with in the past...not to mention books and articles... Really, if kids are having issues, they usually are struggling for some reason. Really as my home psychologist whom I truly respect says about my son and all the kids he works with, it doesn't matter if they are doing it "for attention" or to be manipulative etc... bottom line is they are doing it and we need to help them. They are showing that they don't have the skills to do better or at the very least the skills/ability to access the skills to do better (like what happens with many kids with adhd with impulse control...they may be able to state in calm times what to do but in real life...they become too disorganized in thinking and their brain wiring prevents making better choices). I have felt my worst as a parent, even if it was unwarranted, when I have missed something. The most consistently, uncontested research for childhood problems of many sorts says that early intervention is connected to better outcomes. Does it mean that everything will be perfect? of course not. But you will never have to look back and wonder if you had started earlier in your search to support her, could things be different. So that is a long way to say YES. I am sure you are exhausted because of what is going on with your son and other things in life. But she is giving you a clear message that she needs help and she is very young. Even if nothing is wrong with a child, kids at that age are mostly in it for themselves. (yes I know there are exceptions, but developmentally this is normal) Especially given the risk factors in your life...not the least of which being that some Autism is now thought to be genetic and many have more than one person in a family with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)-like symptoms. (just an outsider's perspective... eating issues can be the result of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) symptoms.... or at the least sensory integration symptoms. She may have rules in her head about food or she may not like certain textures, smells, tastes, colors, etc....Just lots to double check because these things can seem very "on purpose" when they do them. I have found myself eating humble pie many times when I have ultimately found out that there was an underlying explanation for a behavior. ) What can it hurt to double check? (though I know it takes a ton of energy, so go easy on yourself) HUGS, Dee [/QUOTE]
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