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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 620907" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Well, what happened here? Did our kids all get together and have a pow wow..........decide to show up in their true, real suit, no more facades, letting us parents know who they really are? Each of us stepping in to that next step, recognizing some new facet of that facade our difficult child's like us to make believe with them about.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, yeah, if I were a betting woman, I would make that bet about your daughter gearing up for the next installment from you. It isn't personal though, I really believe that. She is simply playing her part in the script you two have danced to for how long now? Twenty, thirty years? </p><p></p><p>Make a plan like COM does. Tell difficult child daughter you are happy she has her tax money to bring her through the next 6 months since you and husband do not intend to offer up any more of your money towards either of your kids. Time is up now. Childhood is over. Being a grown up has arrived. </p><p></p><p>difficult child daughter is just doing what she's always done. Nothing different. Only that you saw behind the door to where the truth lies. Ok, nothing to do but set your boundaries now. She will have to adjust to the new you. So will difficult child son. It's kind of hard to go back to being blinded by their well rehearsed acts. </p><p></p><p>Take all that money you would usually be giving to difficult child son and difficult child daughter and go to Europe, go to Paris, have a romantic adventure with your husband, go somewhere for just you and he.</p><p></p><p>husband is defending you. You are seeing husband do his best under these creepy circumstances. You and husband have survived this difficult child concentration camp Cedar...........you're free now.........you and husband can look ahead now and stop looking behind you at all the untrue perceptions you had about how you guys were to blame, you weren't..........you two can join hands and walk into a future together leaving your kids in their own lives to figure it out for themselves, it's NOT your responsibility anymore. Your love for husband and his love for you has survived this. You and he are the family, the two of you. Move ahead with him Cedar, make that choice to go enjoy your lives now. You guys both deserve it in spades, the war is behind you now...........go in peace............together...........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 620907, member: 13542"] Well, what happened here? Did our kids all get together and have a pow wow..........decide to show up in their true, real suit, no more facades, letting us parents know who they really are? Each of us stepping in to that next step, recognizing some new facet of that facade our difficult child's like us to make believe with them about. Cedar, yeah, if I were a betting woman, I would make that bet about your daughter gearing up for the next installment from you. It isn't personal though, I really believe that. She is simply playing her part in the script you two have danced to for how long now? Twenty, thirty years? Make a plan like COM does. Tell difficult child daughter you are happy she has her tax money to bring her through the next 6 months since you and husband do not intend to offer up any more of your money towards either of your kids. Time is up now. Childhood is over. Being a grown up has arrived. difficult child daughter is just doing what she's always done. Nothing different. Only that you saw behind the door to where the truth lies. Ok, nothing to do but set your boundaries now. She will have to adjust to the new you. So will difficult child son. It's kind of hard to go back to being blinded by their well rehearsed acts. Take all that money you would usually be giving to difficult child son and difficult child daughter and go to Europe, go to Paris, have a romantic adventure with your husband, go somewhere for just you and he. husband is defending you. You are seeing husband do his best under these creepy circumstances. You and husband have survived this difficult child concentration camp Cedar...........you're free now.........you and husband can look ahead now and stop looking behind you at all the untrue perceptions you had about how you guys were to blame, you weren't..........you two can join hands and walk into a future together leaving your kids in their own lives to figure it out for themselves, it's NOT your responsibility anymore. Your love for husband and his love for you has survived this. You and he are the family, the two of you. Move ahead with him Cedar, make that choice to go enjoy your lives now. You guys both deserve it in spades, the war is behind you now...........go in peace............together........... [/QUOTE]
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