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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 423913"><p>Just looked over the answers quickly...but saw the mention of Al Anon and couldn't agree more. Going to Al Anon or Families Anonymous is likely to be of tremendous help for you.</p><p>It is good that you set up limits/boundaries in your home. If he is an adult and using....he shouldn't have the luxury of being in your home.</p><p>A possible POSSIBLE exception might MIGHT be if he is ACTIVELY participating in treatment consistently and he is willing and able to follow by house rules.</p><p>It doesn't really sound like this is the case. </p><p>You might want to help him with his first month rent...but no more. Also, make it clear (if you can comfortably afford it), that you will pay for his medical treatment, therapy, etc. IF and only IF HE IS TAKING SERIOUSLY.</p><p>AND I would make it crystal clear if he steals from you again, you will call the police and then do so immediatley.</p><p>In the mean time...again...I would get yourself to some sort of related group and not worry excessively about the trials and tribulations of your adult difficult child.</p><p>Let your contributions to his sobriety and productivity, ONLY assuming he is open to it, be VERY VERY limited (and again, only participate if he is cooperative and trying).</p><p>It is your time now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 423913"] Just looked over the answers quickly...but saw the mention of Al Anon and couldn't agree more. Going to Al Anon or Families Anonymous is likely to be of tremendous help for you. It is good that you set up limits/boundaries in your home. If he is an adult and using....he shouldn't have the luxury of being in your home. A possible POSSIBLE exception might MIGHT be if he is ACTIVELY participating in treatment consistently and he is willing and able to follow by house rules. It doesn't really sound like this is the case. You might want to help him with his first month rent...but no more. Also, make it clear (if you can comfortably afford it), that you will pay for his medical treatment, therapy, etc. IF and only IF HE IS TAKING SERIOUSLY. AND I would make it crystal clear if he steals from you again, you will call the police and then do so immediatley. In the mean time...again...I would get yourself to some sort of related group and not worry excessively about the trials and tribulations of your adult difficult child. Let your contributions to his sobriety and productivity, ONLY assuming he is open to it, be VERY VERY limited (and again, only participate if he is cooperative and trying). It is your time now. [/QUOTE]
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