difficult child has been off medications (claims medications make him feel weird) and doing well for approx 18 months. He has a part time delivery job and his employers are very pleased with him. Lately, he has been up at night more, sleeping later, and spending or wanting to spend money like crazy. Doing things like buying 10 packs of gum at once because he just has to have them, wanting to purchase tickets to a game at $200 a piece. Then he asked his oldest brother if he could go visit him for a weekend so he could get away from our town for a couple of days. difficult child told me some people were irritating him and before he went into a rage, he wanted to get away for a bit. I started to suspect his bipolar was acting up again. difficult child had also been borrowing money from us for gas telling us they were slow at work and he wasnt making enough tips. Then I found money missing. I approached difficult child and asked him what was going on with him. He kept saying he wasnt ready to talk and would soon. I was mad and we got into an argument. On his way out the door to work, he yelled to me, Im addicted to drugs. Sorry I am hurting you by being so. I will be out of the house by Tuesday. The next day he apologized to me and told me that he is not ready for rehab. He said if he is forced to go, it would not work, he has to be ready to give it his all. difficult child has always said that for some reason he can handle someone else telling him to do something but cannot handle for me or husband to tell him what to do. Now he is telling me he would like a 2 week extension on leaving because he wants to try to give the drugs up on his own. I agreed, only because one of his regular deliveries at work was just murdered in an alcohol fueled argument. It has really gotten to difficult child. He is actually going to the funeral home for visitation, too. Any suggestions on how to stay strong for the 2 week extension and any advice if I have to send him out on his own?