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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 641156" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Cinder, Cinder,</p><p></p><p>Forgive me for laughing at what you wrote - only because I SO relate. Bottom line--I think you nailed it. My difficult child has that, too!</p><p></p><p>I am so happy for you - that you found this forum. This forum was truly the beginning of life getting sweet again for husband and me. Our difficult child was 32 when I stumbled on this wonderful place. I was Googling along the lines of, <em>How to quit enabling your grown child. </em>It is pitiful when I see that typed out. He was 32 (blankety-blank) years old!!!! husband and I had struggled with this (and against) for about 15 years. We did not see we could detach. We assumed this was our burden to bear for life, putting up with difficult child's verbal abuse, manipulative ways and rudeness. And, surprise, surprise---nothing was changing. Not for difficult child, not for us.</p><p></p><p>You stick with this forum a few months: read, reflect, learn. Your life WILL get sweeter, calmer. Does my difficult child still cause me pain? Absolutely. Do I understand it is not the responsibility of husband and me for a 33yo difficult child who chooses to be a jerk and use people? That we can and should enjoy our life to the fullest and let difficult child choose his path without our judgment/help in any fashion? Yes. The guilting.is.over. It is a journey, but very travelable.</p><p></p><p>Please stay close to the board. It will change your thinking/your life. So happy you found this forum.</p><p></p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 641156, member: 17635"] Cinder, Cinder, Forgive me for laughing at what you wrote - only because I SO relate. Bottom line--I think you nailed it. My difficult child has that, too! I am so happy for you - that you found this forum. This forum was truly the beginning of life getting sweet again for husband and me. Our difficult child was 32 when I stumbled on this wonderful place. I was Googling along the lines of, [I]How to quit enabling your grown child. [/I]It is pitiful when I see that typed out. He was 32 (blankety-blank) years old!!!! husband and I had struggled with this (and against) for about 15 years. We did not see we could detach. We assumed this was our burden to bear for life, putting up with difficult child's verbal abuse, manipulative ways and rudeness. And, surprise, surprise---nothing was changing. Not for difficult child, not for us. You stick with this forum a few months: read, reflect, learn. Your life WILL get sweeter, calmer. Does my difficult child still cause me pain? Absolutely. Do I understand it is not the responsibility of husband and me for a 33yo difficult child who chooses to be a jerk and use people? That we can and should enjoy our life to the fullest and let difficult child choose his path without our judgment/help in any fashion? Yes. The guilting.is.over. It is a journey, but very travelable. Please stay close to the board. It will change your thinking/your life. So happy you found this forum. SS [/QUOTE]
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