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<blockquote data-quote="CinderMCG" data-source="post: 641394" data-attributes="member: 18583"><p>Nomad, thank you for your advice. </p><p></p><p>I suspect narcissism is part of his problem and I have a few questions for you or anyone who has experience with it. You made a comment that he must know on some level his attitude is not working out for him, but honest to God you would never know with him, but how can he not know? It is unreal how he want to complain about everything and everyone but you will never hear from him, "I screwed up".</p><p></p><p>He is still in the shelter, we communicate through text mostly. I will ask how he is and it turns into hours of ranting and can go from "why don't you buy a bigger house?" (I guess because his reasoning for me not letting him live with him is the size of my house), "I don't want any clothes because they will be ruined in here" (yet he has picked up clothing without me knowing), "I am going to sleep at the corner of *street name* with a money jar", he went on an interview and I asked how that went and he said "I look pretty haggard and I am homeless, no response" (from the job prospect).</p><p></p><p>I have kept my responses to a minimum and consistently tell him that I love him and I know he will change his life around and to use the support staff at the shelter to help. If I tell him to seek help (from a counselor) he gets completely annoyed and tells me to quit telling him to get help. </p><p></p><p>He asked me to take him to look at places (he had nothing set up to see so I don't know why), so I told him I can on Monday night and he text me back saying " What are you so busy doing in the next 8 hours? I need to see places"</p><p></p><p>He pulls the suicide card the odd time and I don't respond to that. </p><p></p><p>There is never a positive conversation, always demands and I have also said to him, what are YOU going to do about your situation? - he changes the subject pretty quickly or gets angry.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing I can do at this point and as much as I would love to invite him over for dinner it can't happen until he has a 300% attitude change. I can't wait for the guilt trip messages as we get closer to Christmas.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CinderMCG, post: 641394, member: 18583"] Nomad, thank you for your advice. I suspect narcissism is part of his problem and I have a few questions for you or anyone who has experience with it. You made a comment that he must know on some level his attitude is not working out for him, but honest to God you would never know with him, but how can he not know? It is unreal how he want to complain about everything and everyone but you will never hear from him, "I screwed up". He is still in the shelter, we communicate through text mostly. I will ask how he is and it turns into hours of ranting and can go from "why don't you buy a bigger house?" (I guess because his reasoning for me not letting him live with him is the size of my house), "I don't want any clothes because they will be ruined in here" (yet he has picked up clothing without me knowing), "I am going to sleep at the corner of *street name* with a money jar", he went on an interview and I asked how that went and he said "I look pretty haggard and I am homeless, no response" (from the job prospect). I have kept my responses to a minimum and consistently tell him that I love him and I know he will change his life around and to use the support staff at the shelter to help. If I tell him to seek help (from a counselor) he gets completely annoyed and tells me to quit telling him to get help. He asked me to take him to look at places (he had nothing set up to see so I don't know why), so I told him I can on Monday night and he text me back saying " What are you so busy doing in the next 8 hours? I need to see places" He pulls the suicide card the odd time and I don't respond to that. There is never a positive conversation, always demands and I have also said to him, what are YOU going to do about your situation? - he changes the subject pretty quickly or gets angry. There is nothing I can do at this point and as much as I would love to invite him over for dinner it can't happen until he has a 300% attitude change. I can't wait for the guilt trip messages as we get closer to Christmas. [/QUOTE]
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