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Did I do the right thing going no contact?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 743286" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SWOT. I do not think it is realistic that either sibling would have intervened in your behalf. They themselves were warped when they were babies. Your mother set up a system that pitted one child against the other. There was not enough love to go around. Not even for one of you. You were each fighting for a slice of a pie that was not even big enough for one child. Your mother was inadequate at best.</p><p></p><p>You had a great empathy for the underdog. They do not. They identify with the aggressor who was your mother. This is hard to overcome especially without the motivation to do so.</p><p></p><p>Your siblings learned a family system that was warped. They acquired your mother's mindset. It is very sad for everybody involved. But least of all, for you. You have escaped, through hard work and insight. But the sadness will continue for all of our lives, at holidays and birthdays especially, I believe, because this was our family. However much we would want to escape we cannot. It is very, very sad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 743286, member: 18958"] SWOT. I do not think it is realistic that either sibling would have intervened in your behalf. They themselves were warped when they were babies. Your mother set up a system that pitted one child against the other. There was not enough love to go around. Not even for one of you. You were each fighting for a slice of a pie that was not even big enough for one child. Your mother was inadequate at best. You had a great empathy for the underdog. They do not. They identify with the aggressor who was your mother. This is hard to overcome especially without the motivation to do so. Your siblings learned a family system that was warped. They acquired your mother's mindset. It is very sad for everybody involved. But least of all, for you. You have escaped, through hard work and insight. But the sadness will continue for all of our lives, at holidays and birthdays especially, I believe, because this was our family. However much we would want to escape we cannot. It is very, very sad. [/QUOTE]
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