I dont like the concept of no contact. But I absolutely had no choice. My sister has no understanding of me and will always be a risk to call the cops on me to punish me. My brother was just so in love with the mother that abused me that there was no hope...he maybe loved her TOO much and could not see what she did. He never had a close relationship with any woman and I wonder if he just loved my mother too much. It wasnt just a normal mother/son relationship. He is a good soul though. Still im sure he heard many complaints about me from her (shrug). He moved out East and didnt SEE anything....it had to be what he heard. At any rate, that is all I can figure out with him. He certainly overrated our mother's character. And she didnt like me. So I absolutely do have to keep no contact for any reason for the rest of this life with my remaining FOO. You can not keep up any relationship when it makes you feel like a bad person, even though you are a good person (not perfect but have a good heart). My sister in particular I will never communicate with for ANY reason. Doesnt matter what she wants. I will take legal action to keep her from me. Thats how strongly I feel about keeping her from uttering a word to me again. All she does is hurt me. All she ever did was hurt me. For lurkers, do not let anybody make you feel small. You are precious and important and nobody has a right to treat you any other way. And if people dont want to understand you, they just wont. So dont explain. Let that person go. Consequently, I dont understand my sister at all and no longer have any desire to understand what makes her tick. What makes her hostile. Why she acted like she did. It doesnt matter anymore as she will never be back. Love and light and Happy Turkey Day!!!