lovemysons
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Today I texted with oldest grandson and middle granddaughter.
Middle granddaughter tells me she doesn’t want to go through a custody battle only to possibly lose. She said her mom can become irrational and attack the person not the problem. She said when she turns 18 she will go no contact with her mother and leave for good.
I talked to my oldest grandson just a short while ago. He is backing out too. He said he will just wait till mom messes up again and maybe gets caught next time.
I am so angry at CPS…child protective services in Texas. The kids had a chance at a brand new life with us. Structure, a bedtime, their own bedrooms, opportunities in real school, counseling, psychiatric medication if needed, mentoring, good examples, and most of all love.
Love by my husband’s and my definition and by the God we believe in, is sacrificial to self, beneficial to others. Their mom knows no sacrifice. The kids are cash cows to her. She collects social security on our 3 from their fathers death plus child support for another child she had while married to our son and she was trying to get social security on yet another child she had while married to our son, who’s father also died.
She told oldest grandson 6 months ago that she relapsed on Meth because she was sad and that if they told anyone she would kill herself. This is the kind of mom she is. No regard for her children’s emotional wellbeing.
She told the police that oldest grandson hit her and had him taken to jail. When he did nothing of the sort and she then apologized to him later for lying. But the damage was done.
CPS tested her for drugs long after the investigation started. Why did they wait so long??? And why can’t they require her to get my grandchildren counseling when oldest grandson in the interview with CPS told them he thought about suicide and had even thought of a way…by an overdose.
Still they do nothing. They tell me their investigation is over and that they can’t force counseling only recommend.
Life isn’t fair. I know this. But my heart hurts so badly for my grandchildren tonight.
I am so angry at the system too designed to help children in crisis. And clearly my grandchildren are in crisis.
Remember middle granddaughters poem…
I am just a pawn in their game just a mere piece under their control fighting to save myself from the impending doom that's bound to crush me one day or another. Their tactics are no more than mere manipulation so nobody else can predict their next move and what they are to do. I am a pawn. A pawn that is used to keep all the others safe so they don't get crushed underneath the pressure that burns like liquid flames going down your throat only to burn the inside of you so anybody on the outside is oblivious to the havoc that's wrecking the inside. I'm a pawn one that has lost all hope being pinned into a corner with no escape, and nobody to stand behind me to back up the position I'm in. I am a pawn.
And she is right…nobody with authority stood behind her to back up the position she is in.
Sometimes I just hate life.
Middle granddaughter tells me she doesn’t want to go through a custody battle only to possibly lose. She said her mom can become irrational and attack the person not the problem. She said when she turns 18 she will go no contact with her mother and leave for good.
I talked to my oldest grandson just a short while ago. He is backing out too. He said he will just wait till mom messes up again and maybe gets caught next time.
I am so angry at CPS…child protective services in Texas. The kids had a chance at a brand new life with us. Structure, a bedtime, their own bedrooms, opportunities in real school, counseling, psychiatric medication if needed, mentoring, good examples, and most of all love.
Love by my husband’s and my definition and by the God we believe in, is sacrificial to self, beneficial to others. Their mom knows no sacrifice. The kids are cash cows to her. She collects social security on our 3 from their fathers death plus child support for another child she had while married to our son and she was trying to get social security on yet another child she had while married to our son, who’s father also died.
She told oldest grandson 6 months ago that she relapsed on Meth because she was sad and that if they told anyone she would kill herself. This is the kind of mom she is. No regard for her children’s emotional wellbeing.
She told the police that oldest grandson hit her and had him taken to jail. When he did nothing of the sort and she then apologized to him later for lying. But the damage was done.
CPS tested her for drugs long after the investigation started. Why did they wait so long??? And why can’t they require her to get my grandchildren counseling when oldest grandson in the interview with CPS told them he thought about suicide and had even thought of a way…by an overdose.
Still they do nothing. They tell me their investigation is over and that they can’t force counseling only recommend.
Life isn’t fair. I know this. But my heart hurts so badly for my grandchildren tonight.
I am so angry at the system too designed to help children in crisis. And clearly my grandchildren are in crisis.
Remember middle granddaughters poem…
I am just a pawn in their game just a mere piece under their control fighting to save myself from the impending doom that's bound to crush me one day or another. Their tactics are no more than mere manipulation so nobody else can predict their next move and what they are to do. I am a pawn. A pawn that is used to keep all the others safe so they don't get crushed underneath the pressure that burns like liquid flames going down your throat only to burn the inside of you so anybody on the outside is oblivious to the havoc that's wrecking the inside. I'm a pawn one that has lost all hope being pinned into a corner with no escape, and nobody to stand behind me to back up the position I'm in. I am a pawn.
And she is right…nobody with authority stood behind her to back up the position she is in.
Sometimes I just hate life.
