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Did I over-react? Teen easy child issue
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 227003" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>It is a toughie. If she were 13-14, no question she'd be home in a heartbeat. At 17, the answer isn't that easy. It does sound she has earned your trust. However, there are risks with just teens in a house and you do need to protect her from at least some of those risks.</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like you were okay with it at first and then decided it wasn't a good idea. I know that had I been 17 and my parents said yes with all the trust that implied and then came and got me, I'd be beyond livid. So, she definitely had a right to be angry. I'm sure she was pretty humiliated that you came and got her. However, when she's calmed down, you might remind her that you weren't the only parent who didn't let their kids stay once they knew it would be unsupervised.</p><p> </p><p>So, I guess I think you were right to say no even if she is trustworthy, etc. However, I think you handled it poorly. Once I said yes, I would have swallowed hard and let her stay. I don't think she deserved to have her parents come and get her when she was doing nothing wrong and you were pretty sure she wouldn't do anything wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 227003, member: 3626"] It is a toughie. If she were 13-14, no question she'd be home in a heartbeat. At 17, the answer isn't that easy. It does sound she has earned your trust. However, there are risks with just teens in a house and you do need to protect her from at least some of those risks. It sounds like you were okay with it at first and then decided it wasn't a good idea. I know that had I been 17 and my parents said yes with all the trust that implied and then came and got me, I'd be beyond livid. So, she definitely had a right to be angry. I'm sure she was pretty humiliated that you came and got her. However, when she's calmed down, you might remind her that you weren't the only parent who didn't let their kids stay once they knew it would be unsupervised. So, I guess I think you were right to say no even if she is trustworthy, etc. However, I think you handled it poorly. Once I said yes, I would have swallowed hard and let her stay. I don't think she deserved to have her parents come and get her when she was doing nothing wrong and you were pretty sure she wouldn't do anything wrong. [/QUOTE]
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