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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 227339" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sometimes you can't say with any firmness, "This was right," or "That was the correct thing to do," because culturally there are subtleties and variations.</p><p></p><p>MWM, you would have done things your way because you see that for you, that would have been the correct decision. And probably it would have been. It's not "unpopular choice" - it's just your considered choice. That's OK. For each of us, our take is going to be subtly different because of other aspects of it and our own slight variations on cultural shifts.</p><p></p><p>We've had a few very highly-publicised cases over here in Australia, of teens having parties while parents are away. A boy called Corey comes to mind. </p><p></p><p>I'm disgusted with the various people involved especially the media parasites. And this kid most of all. He's been amply rewarded for his bad behaviour.</p><p></p><p>Parties can be a big worry, when text messaging has them get out of hand. We've had a few tragedies when gatecrashers turn up and then get violent when ejected.</p><p></p><p>However, there is a big difference between a party (as in lots of drinks, lots of kids, lots of loud music) and a sleepover. How do we keep our kids safe? So much of it does depend on how well we know each kid. Even a easy child may need more careful watching, it depends on so many factors. I'm still reeling in shock form easy child 2/difficult child 2 having her drink spiked last weekend with GHB, from what we can work out she is lucky it didn't kill her. And she was in a cocktail bar in Sydney, with friends (including BF2). If she hadn't been with friends then she almost certainly would have become another statistic. If it had been at a private party instead of a public bar, again it would have been much nastier. And she's 22!</p><p></p><p>We can't wrap our kids up in cottonwool. easy child 2/difficult child 2 says she's gone this long (from the legal age of 18) without having her drink spiked, because she listened to us and took every precaution. She just let her guard down last Sunday and didn't watch her drink as closely as she should have, even though she didn't let anyone else buy her a drink and made sure she never left it unattended. But she says she forgot to keep her hand over the top at all times.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes there is no definitive right answer. There is only judgement. And that is subjective.</p><p></p><p>So MWM, don't apologise or feel an outsider because you have a varying opinion. You are just as much entitled to it as anyone else.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 227339, member: 1991"] Sometimes you can't say with any firmness, "This was right," or "That was the correct thing to do," because culturally there are subtleties and variations. MWM, you would have done things your way because you see that for you, that would have been the correct decision. And probably it would have been. It's not "unpopular choice" - it's just your considered choice. That's OK. For each of us, our take is going to be subtly different because of other aspects of it and our own slight variations on cultural shifts. We've had a few very highly-publicised cases over here in Australia, of teens having parties while parents are away. A boy called Corey comes to mind. I'm disgusted with the various people involved especially the media parasites. And this kid most of all. He's been amply rewarded for his bad behaviour. Parties can be a big worry, when text messaging has them get out of hand. We've had a few tragedies when gatecrashers turn up and then get violent when ejected. However, there is a big difference between a party (as in lots of drinks, lots of kids, lots of loud music) and a sleepover. How do we keep our kids safe? So much of it does depend on how well we know each kid. Even a easy child may need more careful watching, it depends on so many factors. I'm still reeling in shock form easy child 2/difficult child 2 having her drink spiked last weekend with GHB, from what we can work out she is lucky it didn't kill her. And she was in a cocktail bar in Sydney, with friends (including BF2). If she hadn't been with friends then she almost certainly would have become another statistic. If it had been at a private party instead of a public bar, again it would have been much nastier. And she's 22! We can't wrap our kids up in cottonwool. easy child 2/difficult child 2 says she's gone this long (from the legal age of 18) without having her drink spiked, because she listened to us and took every precaution. She just let her guard down last Sunday and didn't watch her drink as closely as she should have, even though she didn't let anyone else buy her a drink and made sure she never left it unattended. But she says she forgot to keep her hand over the top at all times. Sometimes there is no definitive right answer. There is only judgement. And that is subjective. So MWM, don't apologise or feel an outsider because you have a varying opinion. You are just as much entitled to it as anyone else. Marg [/QUOTE]
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