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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 629704" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>Am I the only one who thinks it's ironic for a young adult who works at a grocery store to throw a fit because doesn't like YOUR choices of the food in YOUR house? he works, at a grocery store... it's not like he would have to go out of his way to purchase some food he likes.</p><p></p><p>It figures that people who have not been exposed to his abuse seem to be so eager that you should tolerate it... I'de be willing to bet they would live with that for about 10 minutes before it got REAL OLD!</p><p></p><p>His sister does not feel safe with him in the house and based on his past actions and current threats I think she is very justified in her feelings. I would ask dad if her safety and peace of mind mean anything to him? How about your safety and peace of mind?</p><p></p><p>The only one I know who owns a digital scale that isn't a drug dealer is friend who has an e-bay business selling fishing lures etc. that he needs the scale to figure out postage. very suspicious in my opinion</p><p></p><p>My answer to anyone who asked what it would take to let him back in...</p><p></p><p>1) A written contract that he will not bring drugs, alcohol, tobacco or weapons into my house; also include in agreement not to abuse anyone/anything in house (or barn) physically, sexually, emotionally or verbally</p><p></p><p>2) To treat me with respect in my house, and recognize that I am the boss here</p><p></p><p>3) To turn over 40% of his take home pay to me to help cover room, board and a tolerance fee.</p><p></p><p>4) To make a 5 year plan that includes him getting his own space</p><p></p><p>I've noticed with the abusive people in my life they give me as much abuse as I will tolerate and if there is any hopes of co existing with them there have to be very clear cut boundaries in place.</p><p></p><p>For your daughters sake if not your own please stand your ground and put an end to his bully like behaviors while there is still hope for him.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you peace and sending gentle hugs</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 629704, member: 7170"] Am I the only one who thinks it's ironic for a young adult who works at a grocery store to throw a fit because doesn't like YOUR choices of the food in YOUR house? he works, at a grocery store... it's not like he would have to go out of his way to purchase some food he likes. It figures that people who have not been exposed to his abuse seem to be so eager that you should tolerate it... I'de be willing to bet they would live with that for about 10 minutes before it got REAL OLD! His sister does not feel safe with him in the house and based on his past actions and current threats I think she is very justified in her feelings. I would ask dad if her safety and peace of mind mean anything to him? How about your safety and peace of mind? The only one I know who owns a digital scale that isn't a drug dealer is friend who has an e-bay business selling fishing lures etc. that he needs the scale to figure out postage. very suspicious in my opinion My answer to anyone who asked what it would take to let him back in... 1) A written contract that he will not bring drugs, alcohol, tobacco or weapons into my house; also include in agreement not to abuse anyone/anything in house (or barn) physically, sexually, emotionally or verbally 2) To treat me with respect in my house, and recognize that I am the boss here 3) To turn over 40% of his take home pay to me to help cover room, board and a tolerance fee. 4) To make a 5 year plan that includes him getting his own space I've noticed with the abusive people in my life they give me as much abuse as I will tolerate and if there is any hopes of co existing with them there have to be very clear cut boundaries in place. For your daughters sake if not your own please stand your ground and put an end to his bully like behaviors while there is still hope for him. Wishing you peace and sending gentle hugs Nancy [/QUOTE]
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