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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 233680" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Kjs, I'm sorry you are struggling. I agree with Sharon about talking to a therapist.</p><p> </p><p>You know, this same situation happened with M yesterday. She had done her math homework the night before and then couldn't find it when she packed up her binder for school yesterday morning. She started screaming at me that I had moved it or thrown it away. I said, "I'm sorry you feel that way. Do you want me to help you look for it?" Sure, I was hurt that she blamed me, but I kept reminding myself, "This is her anxiety talking." It becomes like a mantra to me and helps me depersonalize the situation. We never did find her homework so I offered to write an email to her teacher, who wrote back, "No problem" and allowed M to redo the homework at the start of class. I know M is in elementary school and your difficult child is in high school, but I'm trying to model problem-solving with M rather than blame-throwing. It's hard to do at the heat of the moment, but I think it's a win-win situation when parents can guide their children to soutions.</p><p> </p><p>I hope you can find someone to talk to soon. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 233680, member: 2423"] Kjs, I'm sorry you are struggling. I agree with Sharon about talking to a therapist. You know, this same situation happened with M yesterday. She had done her math homework the night before and then couldn't find it when she packed up her binder for school yesterday morning. She started screaming at me that I had moved it or thrown it away. I said, "I'm sorry you feel that way. Do you want me to help you look for it?" Sure, I was hurt that she blamed me, but I kept reminding myself, "This is her anxiety talking." It becomes like a mantra to me and helps me depersonalize the situation. We never did find her homework so I offered to write an email to her teacher, who wrote back, "No problem" and allowed M to redo the homework at the start of class. I know M is in elementary school and your difficult child is in high school, but I'm trying to model problem-solving with M rather than blame-throwing. It's hard to do at the heat of the moment, but I think it's a win-win situation when parents can guide their children to soutions. I hope you can find someone to talk to soon. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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