Well my grounding myself didn't last. Maybe it would if I weren't in so much emotional pain. I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about my marriage problems or mother in law problems because I don't want to put a wedge between husband and anyone we know. So I guess you guys get all of it. Sorry. mother in law called and said she wouldn't be coming until Sat, so I have a few more days to clean. We only see her once a year and normally it does go well. Everyone is on there best behavior. Feb. 13th was our aniversary. husband ignored it. Looks like he is going to ignore the 14th too. Some may remember that husband has impulse control issues with the money. He is at it again. He said he'd get his name off the account. He didn't. I looked into it. Thinking if I could find out what needed to be done so it be easier to get him to do it. I found out I'd have to start up a whole new account and close the old account. O.k. The problem is the required $100 deposit. We're poor, really poor; and husband spending right and left plus the bills makes it almost impossible to get $100 saved up to start a new account. (He does have a paypal account that we put monthly spending money into. I wish I had monthly spending money.) Maybe when the tax return comes I can start up a new account. I'm in so much emotional pain my heart physically hurts. Most of you can probably relate. I just want to crawl back in bed and stay there until I die. I'm kinda numb right now. I'm not even mad yet. I'll probably get mad latter. Thanks for letting me vent. On a postive note difficult child 2 learned how to shake his head "yes"!!! This has reduced the fits in our apartment considerably.