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Difference between 13yo and 15yo??
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 343429" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>That 2nd PO sounded awful. Bah, humbug.</p><p> </p><p>A united front is important. Are diff people checking up on difficult child? And the parole officer is their supervisor? Hmm.</p><p> </p><p>Your note gives me some ideas ... just put it in bite-sized chunks, regarding what you do on any given day. For example ...</p><p>He doesn't get to take a shower at 3 a.m. (He's going to say that's obvious, but things like that make it easy on him and give him a chuckle.)</p><p>He must do his own laundry on specified days, and keep it in a specified location.</p><p>He must help with-the dishes.</p><p>He may use the TV if it doesn't conflict with-your use (unless you have 2 TVs).</p><p>He must do his schoolwork (I don't know how that is being managed, if he goes outside to school?)</p><p>You can decide whether he gets a cell ph or whether he has to earn it somehow.</p><p>No phonecalls after 10 p.m. (or whatever you decide. In our household, even the adults do that, so we know that at midnight, for example, it's a scary phone call!)</p><p> </p><p>I would try to keep everything light, and if he balks, just smile and stand firm. </p><p> </p><p>I agree, it is going to be hard to keep authority, but remind him that it's your house and your rules. You don't expect him to like them, you just expect him to follow them. </p><p> </p><p>And also, expect him to break some rules. He's still a kid, he's still a difficult child. Hopefully, this is how he learns. Plan out your response for when he does break a rule, so it's just like you're in play, following a script. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Maybe plan out some surprise rewards, too, but nothing too flamboyant; after all, as you said, his life has been monitored 24/7.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 343429, member: 3419"] That 2nd PO sounded awful. Bah, humbug. A united front is important. Are diff people checking up on difficult child? And the parole officer is their supervisor? Hmm. Your note gives me some ideas ... just put it in bite-sized chunks, regarding what you do on any given day. For example ... He doesn't get to take a shower at 3 a.m. (He's going to say that's obvious, but things like that make it easy on him and give him a chuckle.) He must do his own laundry on specified days, and keep it in a specified location. He must help with-the dishes. He may use the TV if it doesn't conflict with-your use (unless you have 2 TVs). He must do his schoolwork (I don't know how that is being managed, if he goes outside to school?) You can decide whether he gets a cell ph or whether he has to earn it somehow. No phonecalls after 10 p.m. (or whatever you decide. In our household, even the adults do that, so we know that at midnight, for example, it's a scary phone call!) I would try to keep everything light, and if he balks, just smile and stand firm. I agree, it is going to be hard to keep authority, but remind him that it's your house and your rules. You don't expect him to like them, you just expect him to follow them. And also, expect him to break some rules. He's still a kid, he's still a difficult child. Hopefully, this is how he learns. Plan out your response for when he does break a rule, so it's just like you're in play, following a script. Maybe plan out some surprise rewards, too, but nothing too flamboyant; after all, as you said, his life has been monitored 24/7. [/QUOTE]
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