Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
difficult child 1 continues hostility from prison
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 632855" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Oh Tish, Oh Tish, Oh Tish,</p><p></p><p>Many times I relate to what others post on this forum but your latest story beats all others for that! Your son sounds exactly like my difficult child. He got somewhat nicer while incarcerated the last time. The first time he was in jail for four days or so and got word to us not to visit. But, years down the road, when he was incarcerated about 18 months, he was okay with a visit and letters. Phone calls ...he was usually nice, but <strong>not always. </strong>But, he never felt bad about asking his wicked, uncaring parents for money for his account and books from Amazon.</p><p></p><p>HOWEVER, between those stints of being locked up, and again, AFTER he got out the last time (about 7 years ago), what you describe your son as doing has been my difficult child's mode of operation. Oh my goodness. Totally our fault he was incarcerated. Very delusional about his childhood. In fact, his younger sister felt badly for him initially and was writing him while he was in jail. She stopped because his letters became scary delusional --- wanting her to share in his memories of their childhood. She never told us any specifics. She is a psychological examiner and does not scare easily when it comes to minds.</p><p></p><p><em>We treated the other two kids way better</em></p><p><em>We called him a "little liar" when he was six years old</em></p><p><em>He had to earn video game time by reading</em></p><p><em>We made him buy a used Volvo so he never learned how to date</em></p><p><em>He ended up incarcerated the last time because we refused to send him a little bit of money ($1000)</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>There are many, many more. </p><p>I very rarely stood up to him on any of these, thinking...well, not sure WHAT i thought. Guess, i thought difficult child was messed up because he believed those things and one day he would see things clearly. If i had to do it over again, I would have been an <strong>emphatic</strong> broken record, <strong>"That never happened."</strong></p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. This is painful. I attribute my difficult child's hateful blame to antisocial behavior disorder, but concede there are likely other serious factors involved.</p><p></p><p>Stay close!</p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 632855, member: 17635"] Oh Tish, Oh Tish, Oh Tish, Many times I relate to what others post on this forum but your latest story beats all others for that! Your son sounds exactly like my difficult child. He got somewhat nicer while incarcerated the last time. The first time he was in jail for four days or so and got word to us not to visit. But, years down the road, when he was incarcerated about 18 months, he was okay with a visit and letters. Phone calls ...he was usually nice, but [B]not always. [/B]But, he never felt bad about asking his wicked, uncaring parents for money for his account and books from Amazon. HOWEVER, between those stints of being locked up, and again, AFTER he got out the last time (about 7 years ago), what you describe your son as doing has been my difficult child's mode of operation. Oh my goodness. Totally our fault he was incarcerated. Very delusional about his childhood. In fact, his younger sister felt badly for him initially and was writing him while he was in jail. She stopped because his letters became scary delusional --- wanting her to share in his memories of their childhood. She never told us any specifics. She is a psychological examiner and does not scare easily when it comes to minds. [I]We treated the other two kids way better We called him a "little liar" when he was six years old He had to earn video game time by reading We made him buy a used Volvo so he never learned how to date He ended up incarcerated the last time because we refused to send him a little bit of money ($1000) [/I] There are many, many more. I very rarely stood up to him on any of these, thinking...well, not sure WHAT i thought. Guess, i thought difficult child was messed up because he believed those things and one day he would see things clearly. If i had to do it over again, I would have been an [B]emphatic[/B] broken record, [B]"That never happened."[/B] I am so sorry. This is painful. I attribute my difficult child's hateful blame to antisocial behavior disorder, but concede there are likely other serious factors involved. Stay close! SS [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
difficult child 1 continues hostility from prison
Top