Gaslighting...very glad to learn this term. Yep, he does that. Gotta share this with husband.
The car story reminds me of another one. difficult child and his sister both worked to buy their first cars. difficult child saved about $1900 and daughter saved over $3000. I DID insist he buy a used Volvo because i read it was the safest car. He bought the first Volvo he could afford (piece of junk and i never insisted that for our other two kids because that Volvo was a money pit, tho his driving it 30 miles overheated contributed, ahem). Daughter bought a spiffy looking Camaro. One day, leaving the house in a huff, he kicked her car and said, "and THIS. I will never forgive you for this".
Granted, there was no time for dialogue. difficult child did not wait for a response. And, why would he ever stop to think that perhaps his sister saved more money? husband and i did not put one cent into either car.
