Aha! "Gaslighting"! Maaaaan, have we been the recipients of "gaslighting"! Thanks, Midwest Mom, for sharing that term. I didn't know it, but will liberally apply it now! Gaslighting is the name of our difficult child's game.
I am learning much from this group and am appreciative. Most of all, to know we're not alone. I told my husband about this group last night and said, "I cannot believe I've run into a whole group of people whose scenarios are very nearly identical to ours!"