I suspect they wont do much either, or at least not the things that will make a difference if his diagnosis are correct...but maybe? When my son increases these behaviors, I think medications right away. It is often many things, but medications are the biggest issue. I started routinely driving my son to the psychiatric hospital (we have a crisis center and it is nice but not fun....they have been really good so far) and Q is starting to not want to go there...ahhhh finally, he is getting it that I wont allow the aggression to happen. Everything in his world stops too...he has to stay with me and go everywhere with me if we leave at all. I often do leave because his having a rage at home in our town home complex gains lots of attention for him.
Some here say that they make their kids repair the holes. I'd include at his age that he has to pay for the repair.
Do you think it is time for out patient intensive or inpatient or maybe even a residential stay to do a medication wash and see if medications need to be changed? Can you get doors made of solid wood? or Metal? Wont help with the walls but could protect the doors. Again, he may need to pay for those in some way, either cash or working it off.
Is he doing this at your house or husband's house or both places? Does he have anything to say afterwards? Is he sorry or does he recognize that he is doing something unacceptable? Is he out of school for the summer? Too much unstructured time?
Just throwing ideas out, they may be totally off....just a brain storm session....
Sorry he is at that level, my son has done damage too but not to that level. I hope you can find some ideas and answers....
HUGS, Dee