Busywend,
I totally agree with you. It is verbal abuse!!! At the moment, I'm working on getting more services for him in school as well as having him re-evaluated. I'm also researching services for him when he graduates from high school. As I've said so many times, I don't think I would be able to deal with him at all if I thought he was going to have to live with me forever!!!
Unfortunately, over the years, I've learned that giving him consequences for his inappropriate behavior doesn't do much good. However, because there isn't much else I can do, he loses reward time when he is verbally abusive. He also loses his desserts. Taking away dessert is about the only thing that seems to have an effect on him.
I've been thinking about his verbal abuse alot lately. I think that in some ways I must be allowing him to do this. For instance, when he is in the middle of a tantrum and is extremely verbally abusive, he is sent to his room. I ignore him as long as he isn't in danger of hurting himself or someone else. I've learned that trying to talk to him or giving him his consequences when he is in a fit of rage is useless. It only adds fuel to the fire. So, because I can't seem to find a better way of handling him, he is verbally abusive until he decides to stop.
I absolutely HATE that he has this kind of control over me!!! It makes me furious. I just don't know what to do about it. I'm hoping some medication might help him.
I agree. It isn't good for the other kids to be around this. As you put it, and I couldn't agree more, it sucks!!!
It helps just having you call it verbal abuse too. It really makes me realize that I don't want to live with him for four more years like this!!! WFEN
