This is a new development. Beside failing all his classes, he joined a gang at school. After football games, he goes with them and beats people up. He did not come home Friday night until midnight and he was supposed to be home at 10:30. He walked home from wherever he went. I was in the street searching for him. The next day he told me he body slammed a guy on the concrete. I wish he had not told me that because I can't get that out of my head. I told him he could be charged with assault or if the guy died, manslaughter. Of course he thinks this is stupid to say. He also listens to this terrible rap "music" full of the f word and all kinds of other nasty stuff in it. We are losing control of him but he doesn't see how much he is changing. Even kids he knows have told him. What should I do? The school knows they have gangs there and the police are on the move after every football game. Maybe I should talk to the school resource officer. I don't want him to go to any more games but I don't know how to keep him in the house. He either barges out the door or he sneaks out the back. Any ideas on this? Oh my God, you all .....I feel so lost these days and you are the only ones that know what it is like to live with someone so oppositional. Sometimes I just want to move and live alone.