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<blockquote data-quote="4sumrzn" data-source="post: 140292" data-attributes="member: 4133"><p>Well.....I can only relate to this because of my easy child, he's 13. The boy has become a "girl magnet" this year. The phone, notes, talking with friends about "going out/dating", the texting NON-STOP, pictures of the "girlfriend" on his phone (all cute, but still). Valentine's day was a shock to me.....don't remember ever giving "a boy" stuffed animals, a tie & a lovey dovey hand written card! BUT........I also was bouncing out of a private school & was scared to death of the new school coming up (by the way, I wasn't an angel.....but pretty chicken of most advances boys made). Anyway, I freaked the night I took easy child's phone early as a punishment for his tone with me. husband wasn't too pleased that I was snooping on his phone a few hours later. The contract I wrote for him says I can take it whenever I want to, but doesn't say I can snoop. He is correct, I was wrong there.....I did it though. I guess they were just getting "back together" after a break up........she was saying how she loves him so much, can't live a day without him, can't imagine not being with him forever.......WHAT????? The child even cries over girls....UGH. Hmmmmmm........<span style="font-size: 18px">13</span>............guess that's my answer now. Hormones. Not quite sure that's what I was doing then.....times have changed. I will say.....I am the Mom that doesn't let him do what his friends get to do, he doesn't get to Hang out with the girls unless it's at a school event or a supervised gathering. Probably makes me "too strict". His phone is out of his room by 9:30 or it's mine, even though he pays for a part of it (in the contract). Also, our house is so small (you made comment about big houses being visited)...you could pretty much hear a pin drop as long as difficult child was sleeping.....no funny business in our house! LOL! Actually, we rarely have any company anyway because of her<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" />. On the other hand.......I have 5 younger brothers & sisters....big house growing up, more room to "play". I know they were doing that with their friends & my parents were there....2 ended up with kids at 15 & 16. </p><p> </p><p>You have a very serious concern & the others have given great advice. Mine would be.....if you are upset/concerned, you should make sure you draw the line on what you believe is the limit. It's hard, they may get upset.......but, down the road they will understand & you feel better along the way for enforcing what you want. I understand it doesn't go smoothly like that...can't just make it happen, but you have to try if you are worried about it.</p><p> </p><p>by the way....I had to ask husband what he would respond to on a topic like this. HA...he said, "uhhh....you need to ask the other men what they were doing at that age, I know what I was doing". <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="4sumrzn, post: 140292, member: 4133"] Well.....I can only relate to this because of my easy child, he's 13. The boy has become a "girl magnet" this year. The phone, notes, talking with friends about "going out/dating", the texting NON-STOP, pictures of the "girlfriend" on his phone (all cute, but still). Valentine's day was a shock to me.....don't remember ever giving "a boy" stuffed animals, a tie & a lovey dovey hand written card! BUT........I also was bouncing out of a private school & was scared to death of the new school coming up (by the way, I wasn't an angel.....but pretty chicken of most advances boys made). Anyway, I freaked the night I took easy child's phone early as a punishment for his tone with me. husband wasn't too pleased that I was snooping on his phone a few hours later. The contract I wrote for him says I can take it whenever I want to, but doesn't say I can snoop. He is correct, I was wrong there.....I did it though. I guess they were just getting "back together" after a break up........she was saying how she loves him so much, can't live a day without him, can't imagine not being with him forever.......WHAT????? The child even cries over girls....UGH. Hmmmmmm........[SIZE=5]13[/SIZE]............guess that's my answer now. Hormones. Not quite sure that's what I was doing then.....times have changed. I will say.....I am the Mom that doesn't let him do what his friends get to do, he doesn't get to Hang out with the girls unless it's at a school event or a supervised gathering. Probably makes me "too strict". His phone is out of his room by 9:30 or it's mine, even though he pays for a part of it (in the contract). Also, our house is so small (you made comment about big houses being visited)...you could pretty much hear a pin drop as long as difficult child was sleeping.....no funny business in our house! LOL! Actually, we rarely have any company anyway because of her:2sad:. On the other hand.......I have 5 younger brothers & sisters....big house growing up, more room to "play". I know they were doing that with their friends & my parents were there....2 ended up with kids at 15 & 16. You have a very serious concern & the others have given great advice. Mine would be.....if you are upset/concerned, you should make sure you draw the line on what you believe is the limit. It's hard, they may get upset.......but, down the road they will understand & you feel better along the way for enforcing what you want. I understand it doesn't go smoothly like that...can't just make it happen, but you have to try if you are worried about it. by the way....I had to ask husband what he would respond to on a topic like this. HA...he said, "uhhh....you need to ask the other men what they were doing at that age, I know what I was doing". :knockedout: [/QUOTE]
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