Nancy,
This is one of those situations where you really have to be in the one day at a time mode. If she is truly invested (and we have no way of knowing, at this point), then she is learning from your example of helping both with paying off the overdraft (after SHE called to work out a plan) and by helping with the negotiations.
When she gets another job, the real proving will begin. Whatever nonsense has led her losing her last few jobs is for her to own and for her to change.
We warrior parents celebrate these babysteps because we see them for what they are.
Crossing my fingers and toes that she lands a job and begins to take those babysteps on her own ...and in the right direction.
Dash
