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difficult child and school. Hoping I didn't make a big mistake
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 588426" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That could be anxiety. It sounds like she has very low self-confidence and -worth and pessimistic world view. Trying your darn butt off and giving everything to make friends and then failing hurts incredibly badly. If you don't try, you are saved from that hurt. We have a popular modern saying here, "keep your jack (as a device to raise a car.)" It comes from old tv sit-com. Protagonist had a flat tire middle of nowhere. There was one farm house nearby. When he tried to change a tire, his jack broke. He decided to walk to the farm house to borrow a jack. When walking he started to think that maybe there wouldn't be anyone home. Or maybe they didn't have a jack. Or maybe they had, but would charge a rent. or not help at all. And so on. When he came to the house, he threw a stone through the window, screamed that you can keep your darn jack and stomped away and started to walk towards a city. </p><p></p><p>I think your difficult child may be screaming "keep your jack" from the top of her lungs right now. Mine have done that a lot, still does. Not a very successful strategy unfortunately, but I do understand that there are times when you don't have much strength or courage to anything else.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 588426, member: 14557"] That could be anxiety. It sounds like she has very low self-confidence and -worth and pessimistic world view. Trying your darn butt off and giving everything to make friends and then failing hurts incredibly badly. If you don't try, you are saved from that hurt. We have a popular modern saying here, "keep your jack (as a device to raise a car.)" It comes from old tv sit-com. Protagonist had a flat tire middle of nowhere. There was one farm house nearby. When he tried to change a tire, his jack broke. He decided to walk to the farm house to borrow a jack. When walking he started to think that maybe there wouldn't be anyone home. Or maybe they didn't have a jack. Or maybe they had, but would charge a rent. or not help at all. And so on. When he came to the house, he threw a stone through the window, screamed that you can keep your darn jack and stomped away and started to walk towards a city. I think your difficult child may be screaming "keep your jack" from the top of her lungs right now. Mine have done that a lot, still does. Not a very successful strategy unfortunately, but I do understand that there are times when you don't have much strength or courage to anything else. [/QUOTE]
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