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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 113150" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Jane, I know we've said it before - our daughters were cut from the same mold!! I cringe when I think of your daughter at 19 being an exotic dancer. I am thinking I would just die a little inside if my daughter ends up there. I know it's not the worst thing in the world, but still. I did manage to raise two little femenists, so I'm thinking that may not be her first choice in supporting herself.</p><p></p><p>Like your daughter, my difficult child does a not so good job of showing her half hearted, lame attempts at job hunting. Last night H asked me for the college catalog for the local community college. I gave it to him, but inside I wanted to scream at him: SHE'S NOT GOING TO GO AND I'M NOT SPENDING ANYMORE MONEY ON A COLLEGE COURSE SHE'S GOING TO DROP OUT OF OR GET KICKED OUT OF!!! But H wouldn't have heard me, he'd just argue that I'm not pushing her hard enough to go to school. He thinks that he can just step in after me and simply WILL difficult child to do as he thinks she should. I would LOVE for difficult child to attend classes, but she's no interested in anything except the phlebotomoty class and H does not support that nor will he help pay for it. I am hesitant as well to lay out anymore money in that regard. </p><p></p><p>I have totally sat back on this and haven't said anything to difficult child about the circled apt ads - she doesn't even know that I know. She went out again last night, sick and coughing. H checked the oil in her car and gave her money for 2 quarts. I know she probably only bought one quart and a pack of cigarettes. Today she was up at 7:30 when I got up and I asked her what her plans were for the day and said, "I don't know yet - right now I'm doing a survey on MySpace"....ahhhh, excellent, such aspirations. I suggested that she instead clean out her disgusting smelly car, dress nice and go pound the pavement for a job. She rolled her eyes but said she would. She's supposed to stop by my office for fresh copies of her resume. </p><p></p><p>What you said about your daughter having perfect speech and vocabulary - that's daughter!! It's appalling to me when I hear her friend's speaking. They sound so ignorant and, well, stupid. When difficult child speaks she uses intelligible words and language. When she writes, amazing thoughts come out of her. She has the talent and potential to be great at anything she puts her mind to. Unfortunately, she's not putting her mind to anything right now.</p><p></p><p>Last night she said something else about "getting out of HERE". I ignored her. H ignored her. Thanks everyone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 113150, member: 2211"] Jane, I know we've said it before - our daughters were cut from the same mold!! I cringe when I think of your daughter at 19 being an exotic dancer. I am thinking I would just die a little inside if my daughter ends up there. I know it's not the worst thing in the world, but still. I did manage to raise two little femenists, so I'm thinking that may not be her first choice in supporting herself. Like your daughter, my difficult child does a not so good job of showing her half hearted, lame attempts at job hunting. Last night H asked me for the college catalog for the local community college. I gave it to him, but inside I wanted to scream at him: SHE'S NOT GOING TO GO AND I'M NOT SPENDING ANYMORE MONEY ON A COLLEGE COURSE SHE'S GOING TO DROP OUT OF OR GET KICKED OUT OF!!! But H wouldn't have heard me, he'd just argue that I'm not pushing her hard enough to go to school. He thinks that he can just step in after me and simply WILL difficult child to do as he thinks she should. I would LOVE for difficult child to attend classes, but she's no interested in anything except the phlebotomoty class and H does not support that nor will he help pay for it. I am hesitant as well to lay out anymore money in that regard. I have totally sat back on this and haven't said anything to difficult child about the circled apt ads - she doesn't even know that I know. She went out again last night, sick and coughing. H checked the oil in her car and gave her money for 2 quarts. I know she probably only bought one quart and a pack of cigarettes. Today she was up at 7:30 when I got up and I asked her what her plans were for the day and said, "I don't know yet - right now I'm doing a survey on MySpace"....ahhhh, excellent, such aspirations. I suggested that she instead clean out her disgusting smelly car, dress nice and go pound the pavement for a job. She rolled her eyes but said she would. She's supposed to stop by my office for fresh copies of her resume. What you said about your daughter having perfect speech and vocabulary - that's daughter!! It's appalling to me when I hear her friend's speaking. They sound so ignorant and, well, stupid. When difficult child speaks she uses intelligible words and language. When she writes, amazing thoughts come out of her. She has the talent and potential to be great at anything she puts her mind to. Unfortunately, she's not putting her mind to anything right now. Last night she said something else about "getting out of HERE". I ignored her. H ignored her. Thanks everyone. [/QUOTE]
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