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difficult child back on drugs again, very worried and need advice
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 504925"><p>I am so so sorry you are going through this. You can't change his behavior -been there done that. Your only choice is to live with it and accept it or to ask him to leave. I don't mean to be brusque - but that's all you can do. </p><p></p><p>You've done so much all ready - and it hasn't worked. You are a great mom. If you think you can get him back into rehab - line it up. Pack his bags, secure your belongings - if you are worried for your safety- make sure you have a back up plan & your phone in hand. If you want your difficult child to to have a cell phone - get him one now.(my difficult child is on my plan and I find it comforting) Once your plan is ready to go - sit him down & say -" you are leaving now. You can go to rehab or walk away. Two options. Pick one." And immediately take him to rehab or wherever he chooses to go (h brought difficult child to a friends) or put him & his belongings on the porch and lock the door. </p><p></p><p>(My h felt the need to say "if you walk away; don't come back" which broke my heart. But my h needed to get control back and he was right.)</p><p></p><p>I agreed initially that getting your difficult child thru HS at any price was important. However, this price is too much. I hate that my kid is gone, my heart is broken, I cry all the time BUT my home is peaceful and a haven again. Yes, I'd like it to be that way w my son under my roof. But that choice is unavailable. </p><p></p><p>{{}{{{hugs}}}}}{}} I am hurting for you</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 504925"] I am so so sorry you are going through this. You can't change his behavior -been there done that. Your only choice is to live with it and accept it or to ask him to leave. I don't mean to be brusque - but that's all you can do. You've done so much all ready - and it hasn't worked. You are a great mom. If you think you can get him back into rehab - line it up. Pack his bags, secure your belongings - if you are worried for your safety- make sure you have a back up plan & your phone in hand. If you want your difficult child to to have a cell phone - get him one now.(my difficult child is on my plan and I find it comforting) Once your plan is ready to go - sit him down & say -" you are leaving now. You can go to rehab or walk away. Two options. Pick one." And immediately take him to rehab or wherever he chooses to go (h brought difficult child to a friends) or put him & his belongings on the porch and lock the door. (My h felt the need to say "if you walk away; don't come back" which broke my heart. But my h needed to get control back and he was right.) I agreed initially that getting your difficult child thru HS at any price was important. However, this price is too much. I hate that my kid is gone, my heart is broken, I cry all the time BUT my home is peaceful and a haven again. Yes, I'd like it to be that way w my son under my roof. But that choice is unavailable. {{}{{{hugs}}}}}{}} I am hurting for you [/QUOTE]
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