I totally agree with Janet. The time has come to learn detachment so that you can get your own life back and he can move forward with his. It's not an easy process at first (it seems to go against all that mothering we spend 18 yrs doing), but it is well worth it. It's not that you don't love him and still care, it's letting go of the drama and forcing him to deal with his own junk.
Saying a prayer he doesn't do anything stupid.
(((hugs)))
