ugh!! I have been debatting about taking him to a homeless shelter because I just can NOT handle the stress anymore-- I don't do drugs but dam it if pot really calms you down like they claimit does I need a loot of it. I have been biding my time to find out when court was so as not to push him over the edge before then so that hopefully things would go well and then I could approach things a little different and not HAVE to put him in a shelter but things keep getting pushed farther back. He still isn't working and WE have offered to take him-advised of places hiring but no he wants to apply to jobs he knows he wont get or so far on the other side of town that he knows we can't afford to tak ehim back and forth then of course it is still my fault that he isn't working. Anyway as you know he hads been threatening me to push his buttons because I will go to jail for alloweing him to live here after the judge told him to stay away from me. My nephew was living him my brother but they move out of state so he asked if he sould stay here until he leaves for the military so we said yes. He and difficult child have gotten into a couple of arguements because my nephew does not like the way that difficult child talks to us and tries to run us over, he grew up with out a dad and well my sister (his mom) is bipolar to the most extreme so he has had it rough -pretty much living on his own since he was 14 and before that he took care of the family. He still is very respectful to his mom and does as much as he can to help her without being drawn back into the craziness. Sooo tonight difficult child started a fight with husband becasue he was in OUR room and "found" something that we suspect was either stolen or bought with the money he made from stealing my medication. either way it wasn't an honest item but he claims that husband took it from his rom and that it belongs to his friend. it got very heated and then I told husband to lets just go in there and let him rant to himself. BUT after we went in there my nephew and him started talking and my nephew was telling him that it was not right for him to be treating us that way and of course difficult child had to expalin how horrible his entiere life was because I am a horrible mother and well they got into it. difficult child trying to prove that he is big and bad and my nephew telling him that he didn't know what the heck he was talking about.My nephew proving right and left things that difficult child should be thankful for and difficult child trying to prove that we are horrible people. difficult child and nephew got into a wrestling match and after they decided it was even difficult child called the cops on himself ( I think that he was thinking that he would of course get me arrested for "allowing him" to stay here when teh court said He was to have not contact with me and not sure if he was trying to cause trouble for nephew with his recent enrolement in the military but it bit him in the a** because ------remember I kept telling him that we needed to take care of that speeding issue on no drivers license and he kept telling me that he would deal with it on his own time. Well when HE called the cops tonight he got arrested for that dam speeding ticket!!!!!! and I am sitting here telling you what happened. I don't know what the next road brings but he knows that I do not have the money to bail him out and now for sure they will be watching where he goes after jail because he is not suppose to be here so maybe the homeless shelter IS the best bet for him after this. ugh why don't they learn, why do they think that they can do wha the hell that they want. Good thing that I didn't buy that car, and pay for that apartment and on and on and on until he finally learns--I guess that it will be the hard way. I did tell the cop that he had tried to kill himself the last time that he went to jail and they might meed to keep an eye open but NOT on suicide watch since that seems to be really stupid. GOD I PRAY THAT HE DOENS'T TRY TO KILL HIMSELF THERE NOW LIKE HIS KINDERGARTEN FRIEND DID JUST RIGHT BEFORE difficult child WENT IN. For those of you that do --please pray that he will not harm himself or anyone else!!!! So now what --i am not sure. bail is 432.00 but I can't even buy food or gas so he knows that he will have to sit there --my worry is that he will hurt himself and where will he go after this!!!???? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!