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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 471213" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Janet thanks for sharing your story. In my heart I believe she will be OK. In all honesty I believe having the baby and placing it for adoption would have a far greater impact on her. She is completely unprepared both mentally and physically to give birth. She was out buying a pink gemstone cell phone cover two weeks ago instead of thinking about how she would buy baby food or diapers or even pay rent for a place to live. She went to a haunted house this past weekend, touted as the largest in the world and most terrifying. They have a moving circular floor and she was laughing about how she fell down at least 5 times. This is the third haunted house she's gone to, without regard to how fright would impact a fetus. She is eating junk food and smoking and has had no prenatal care at all. She relapsed for at least a week while pregnant and I don't know what she did in addition to drinking. She is not doing any of the things that would indicate she is prepared or even understands what it means to bring a baby into this world. She broke up with the boyfriend but already has a new beau, 12 years older than her. </p><p></p><p>Some veil their objections by talking about the negative impact it has on a woman. I believe they have no idea the negative impact adoption has on the woman, or on the child for that matter. Those of us who live with this do understand. Instead they really try to force their moral judgement on the person.</p><p></p><p>I would never ever advocate this as a means of birth control. This is a serious and very personal decision that must be made by the woman herself after she considers all of the options and consequences. I have seen no indication that difficult child is second guessing her decision, in fact she seems very relieved. She has said several times she has no idea why she thought she could have a baby. We will be there to help her work through her feelings just as we have been there for twenty years helping her make sense of her adoption and all the substance abuse, low self esteem, worthlessness, psychological and psychiatric disorders that her genes have unfortunately imprinted her with, and that I truly hope she decides never to pass on to another individual.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing anyone can say that will ever change our minds that this is the only option that makes sense for difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for everyone's support. I really hoped and prayed we would never be in this position, but in the back of our minds husband and I knew this was a very real possibility and we never waivered in what we knew would be best.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 471213, member: 59"] Janet thanks for sharing your story. In my heart I believe she will be OK. In all honesty I believe having the baby and placing it for adoption would have a far greater impact on her. She is completely unprepared both mentally and physically to give birth. She was out buying a pink gemstone cell phone cover two weeks ago instead of thinking about how she would buy baby food or diapers or even pay rent for a place to live. She went to a haunted house this past weekend, touted as the largest in the world and most terrifying. They have a moving circular floor and she was laughing about how she fell down at least 5 times. This is the third haunted house she's gone to, without regard to how fright would impact a fetus. She is eating junk food and smoking and has had no prenatal care at all. She relapsed for at least a week while pregnant and I don't know what she did in addition to drinking. She is not doing any of the things that would indicate she is prepared or even understands what it means to bring a baby into this world. She broke up with the boyfriend but already has a new beau, 12 years older than her. Some veil their objections by talking about the negative impact it has on a woman. I believe they have no idea the negative impact adoption has on the woman, or on the child for that matter. Those of us who live with this do understand. Instead they really try to force their moral judgement on the person. I would never ever advocate this as a means of birth control. This is a serious and very personal decision that must be made by the woman herself after she considers all of the options and consequences. I have seen no indication that difficult child is second guessing her decision, in fact she seems very relieved. She has said several times she has no idea why she thought she could have a baby. We will be there to help her work through her feelings just as we have been there for twenty years helping her make sense of her adoption and all the substance abuse, low self esteem, worthlessness, psychological and psychiatric disorders that her genes have unfortunately imprinted her with, and that I truly hope she decides never to pass on to another individual. There is nothing anyone can say that will ever change our minds that this is the only option that makes sense for difficult child. Thanks for everyone's support. I really hoped and prayed we would never be in this position, but in the back of our minds husband and I knew this was a very real possibility and we never waivered in what we knew would be best. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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