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difficult child can't just and something over
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 494201" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Sharon, you know I have always been a thrower. And a wall puncher. This is only when I am furious. Its related to mood disorder. When my moods are stable I am fine. As we know right now, not so much..lol. I do like the idea of the throwing in the yard over and over. </p><p></p><p>For me, it was absolutely instinctual in the moment. I dont have that second to think. If I can stop for a second I wont throw. If it is something that is going to cost me a lot to replace, I dont throw. I certainly wouldnt throw my computer or my cell phone. Dishes, bottles, glasses, remotes (not the cable or dish ones), things like that...all can go flying. I think the worse thing I have done that cost money was I tore up a pair of eye glasses one time. I have gotten mad, closed my computer and set it down while growling at it...lol. But I know if I ever tore it up I couldnt replace it. </p><p></p><p>Maybe try to explain to him when he is calm that these things cost money and if they are damaged he will have to pay for them out of his own money. Show him how to pass them calmly and tell him if he is mad, he can throw other safe items. Give him good items to throw. Old soda cans with rocks in them that he can throw outside or soft stuffed animals inside and keep them all around the house so he can get to them easily. Dont punish him if he throws the stuffed animals but after he throws them see if he can talk to you about why he felt the need to throw. </p><p></p><p>Thats my theory.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 494201, member: 1514"] Sharon, you know I have always been a thrower. And a wall puncher. This is only when I am furious. Its related to mood disorder. When my moods are stable I am fine. As we know right now, not so much..lol. I do like the idea of the throwing in the yard over and over. For me, it was absolutely instinctual in the moment. I dont have that second to think. If I can stop for a second I wont throw. If it is something that is going to cost me a lot to replace, I dont throw. I certainly wouldnt throw my computer or my cell phone. Dishes, bottles, glasses, remotes (not the cable or dish ones), things like that...all can go flying. I think the worse thing I have done that cost money was I tore up a pair of eye glasses one time. I have gotten mad, closed my computer and set it down while growling at it...lol. But I know if I ever tore it up I couldnt replace it. Maybe try to explain to him when he is calm that these things cost money and if they are damaged he will have to pay for them out of his own money. Show him how to pass them calmly and tell him if he is mad, he can throw other safe items. Give him good items to throw. Old soda cans with rocks in them that he can throw outside or soft stuffed animals inside and keep them all around the house so he can get to them easily. Dont punish him if he throws the stuffed animals but after he throws them see if he can talk to you about why he felt the need to throw. Thats my theory. [/QUOTE]
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