difficult child has missed his detention (for kicking a girl in the behind) a few times now. I don't know how to get him to go short of taking off early from work and dragging him there, kicking and screaming. I also got an email from his math teacher today... Ms. Ehlena, I want to let you know of an incident during class today. Today, during class, difficult child had his pencil out and was writing on the desktop. I asked him not to write on the desk. He tried to give me some story that he wasn't writing on the desk, but when I pointed out that he had his pencil in a position to write and was dragging it along the desktop, he stopped and shrugged his shoulders. I let him know that writing on the desk was not appropriate behavior. After class ended, I noticed that his desktop was covered in writing with FU in a big design. I went out during lunch and got him and brought him in to show him what I had found. He said, "oh, yeah, my pencil must have done that all by itself" I told him that wouldn't do and that he could come in after school and clean the desk tops in the room. He said "okay". He never showed. Another student from his last class came in for after school help and said that difficult child had scooted out of his last class first in line and headed home. I tried calling your home to hopefully have difficult child come back and. of course, no answer. I will be expecting him tomorrow after school. I would appreciate your reminding him as well. difficult child's behavior is such that I really think he is playing games with both of us. He hears you tell him to show me the work and get it checked off. He knows I am supposed to initial his blue sheet daily and then, when he gets here he tells me that he doesn't have it or that he didn't do it or that he left it home or that he lost it and on and on.......What we had planned in order to help him is not working. What to do? His behavior is such that it is difficult to get others to sit next to him. If someone does something he doesn't particularly like he will irritate that person by hitting, poking, etc that person until they ask to be moved or hit back. When I call difficult child on this behavior, he says that he is justified to do that because the other person did something that irritated him, like make a noise or something like that. When I ask him to write something down or to follow directions for a specific task, he usually looks the other way and does his own thing. Again, what to do? I don't want to sound negative about difficult child but I am frustrated as to what to do in order to help him. Any suggestions you can give would be greatly appreciated. I would like to see him turn things around and be successful in a positive way. Thanks, difficult child's math teacher For those of you who've been there done that, what do you DO in this sort of situation? For the record, we can't "make" difficult child do anything. When he's in these moods, he'd rather sit at his desk doing nothing for a day and a night than do anything we ask. We've got his behavior somewhat under control at home, but he is just losing it when he goes to school. This has gotten way worse this year, and I worry what he's going to be up to next.