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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 521423" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry that this is bringing things back into your life that you wish were not there. Others have given you good ideas. I want to put something out there that I may get jumped on for. That is okay (if others object to what I say). I know that others probably won't agree.</p><p></p><p>this seems like super early parole. I am not sure it would be a good thing as it would say that even fi they give you a lot of time they don't mean it. If his early parole is dependent on a good housing situation and you do not support the early parole or just want to be far from involved, there is NOTHING wrong with saying you won't help set his situation up or guide him or whatever. It is your choice and only you know if parole this early would just tell him that whatever he did wasn't a big deal (IN HIS MIND - in mine and yours a year in prison s a HUGE deal, Know what I mean??) and it is okay to do it again. Or it imight set him up for failure with parole requirements that he just cannot meet. some people truly cannotfollow all the parole requirements and the violations could add years and years onto their sentence and time on parole. those are cases wehre it honestly might be better for the person to just do the whole amt of time in prison, even though that might sound awful. Better to do 7 yrs than do 1 yr and then add on months here and there for violating parole over and over. I think DDD had a difficult child who kept doing that - her difficult child with the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) was just not capable of following all the requirements of parole no matter what he tried. in his case it was the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) effects and in your son's it might be the MI and BMR that make it near impossible to do what is required.</p><p></p><p>I am NOT saying that you should do one thing or another, just that you might want/need to think about this and fi you chose to not help and tell the chaplain/difficult child/parole board that it is a bad idea then it isn't that you are horrible or a monster, just realistic about what difficult child can and will do vs what he can't and won't do. </p><p></p><p>WHATEVER you decde to do is what I will support - promise!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 521423, member: 1233"] I am sorry that this is bringing things back into your life that you wish were not there. Others have given you good ideas. I want to put something out there that I may get jumped on for. That is okay (if others object to what I say). I know that others probably won't agree. this seems like super early parole. I am not sure it would be a good thing as it would say that even fi they give you a lot of time they don't mean it. If his early parole is dependent on a good housing situation and you do not support the early parole or just want to be far from involved, there is NOTHING wrong with saying you won't help set his situation up or guide him or whatever. It is your choice and only you know if parole this early would just tell him that whatever he did wasn't a big deal (IN HIS MIND - in mine and yours a year in prison s a HUGE deal, Know what I mean??) and it is okay to do it again. Or it imight set him up for failure with parole requirements that he just cannot meet. some people truly cannotfollow all the parole requirements and the violations could add years and years onto their sentence and time on parole. those are cases wehre it honestly might be better for the person to just do the whole amt of time in prison, even though that might sound awful. Better to do 7 yrs than do 1 yr and then add on months here and there for violating parole over and over. I think DDD had a difficult child who kept doing that - her difficult child with the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) was just not capable of following all the requirements of parole no matter what he tried. in his case it was the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) effects and in your son's it might be the MI and BMR that make it near impossible to do what is required. I am NOT saying that you should do one thing or another, just that you might want/need to think about this and fi you chose to not help and tell the chaplain/difficult child/parole board that it is a bad idea then it isn't that you are horrible or a monster, just realistic about what difficult child can and will do vs what he can't and won't do. WHATEVER you decde to do is what I will support - promise! [/QUOTE]
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