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difficult child emails me 2 days after I kicked him out
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<blockquote data-quote="BackintheSaddle" data-source="post: 619496" data-attributes="member: 17503"><p>I don't know your son and his behavioral patterns (I have read your recent posts so know what happened for him to have to leave)...I agree totally with MWM that if it's a pattern for him to do this just to wiggle his way back into your life and heart, you should be very cautious in how you respond...if it was my difficult child who responded like that, I'd not believe he meant it because he has never taken responsibility for his actions and I would know he was out to get something...I was struck by your difficult child's email that he wasn't asking you for a thing other than forgiveness...he wasn't asking to come back home, he just wanted you to know he's sorry...has a pattern like this happened in the past where he gets in a situation like this and then manipulates you to give him back what you took away (in this case, your house)..your signature says he's clinical depressed and refuses help-- is now the time that you can help him get it as a step in supporting him in turning his life around?</p><p>It never hurts to process things though...everyone here is right about that...move slowly and purposefully, processing all the things from his past to figure out whether he's likely manipulating you or really ready to change...I for one would like to believe it's a sincere message and you're in for some hopeful signs in the days to come...take care of yourself...all this back and forth makes it much more stressful and hard to cope with so be sure you're doing things to nuture yourself through this</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BackintheSaddle, post: 619496, member: 17503"] I don't know your son and his behavioral patterns (I have read your recent posts so know what happened for him to have to leave)...I agree totally with MWM that if it's a pattern for him to do this just to wiggle his way back into your life and heart, you should be very cautious in how you respond...if it was my difficult child who responded like that, I'd not believe he meant it because he has never taken responsibility for his actions and I would know he was out to get something...I was struck by your difficult child's email that he wasn't asking you for a thing other than forgiveness...he wasn't asking to come back home, he just wanted you to know he's sorry...has a pattern like this happened in the past where he gets in a situation like this and then manipulates you to give him back what you took away (in this case, your house)..your signature says he's clinical depressed and refuses help-- is now the time that you can help him get it as a step in supporting him in turning his life around? It never hurts to process things though...everyone here is right about that...move slowly and purposefully, processing all the things from his past to figure out whether he's likely manipulating you or really ready to change...I for one would like to believe it's a sincere message and you're in for some hopeful signs in the days to come...take care of yourself...all this back and forth makes it much more stressful and hard to cope with so be sure you're doing things to nuture yourself through this [/QUOTE]
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