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<blockquote data-quote="Masta" data-source="post: 73653" data-attributes="member: 308"><p>I have written a letter to difficult child explaining how i feel about the whole situation. i plan on handing her this letter tomorrow. here it is:</p><p>difficult child, I really want to sit down and talk with you about your relationship with your b/friend. I feel if I was to do so we would end up saying things we really dont mean. I have put allot of information into this letter that I want you to think about. Having it written will allow you to read it over. You have a big decision ahead of you.</p><p></p><p>It has come to my attention that b/friend is a sex offender and has been in the Juvenile Justice System along with having a Probation Officer. I will not disclose where I got this information.</p><p></p><p>I am concerned about you getting married to him. If you feel like you have no way out and no where to live since leaving care and would like to leave the b/friends home you can. All you need to do is let me know. </p><p></p><p>I do not like to be lied to, about the whole situation concerning the b/friend. A relationship with others should be based on trust, not based on a big secret lie. </p><p></p><p>I cannot believe that anyone would want to plan a wedding within one month. Expecting others to jump in and save the day once they have already made plans, have put down deposits and paid for things. I have been told nothing is set in stone from the b/friend, but it has; the date, location, wedding dress, choreography and invites. This is not how a wedding is planned. </p><p></p><p>Its unfortunate that more money was spent in California than on the most important day of your life. It seems like that trip has taken from your wedding. To bad the b/friend and his family insist on it being so soon.</p><p></p><p>It was the b/friends and his dad who contacted me in search for money. They asked for assistance and naturally I asked about the plans. Im not sure why they cancelled their invitation to discuss it; of course I was going to have questions. It was our candid questions that revealed their attempt to manipulate. I guess they sent us away, declaring it interrogation, because their manipulation was revealed.</p><p></p><p>I wish to attend your wedding if you will invite me. I also wish to remain a guest only, in order to support you. I cannot support your b/friend and his parents knowing that they kept such a big secret in order to get you out of care. For this reason we will not financially help you with your wedding to your b/friend. To do so would be saying your dad and I condone this wedding. I dont think marrying this quickly is a good idea, at the very least you should postpone it in order to think things through.</p><p></p><p>I felt, since the day you found out that you were pregnant, that b/friends mom and b/friend have been controlling you. It seems you really want to please them, and you are going along with what they say. This is no way to live. b/friends mom is grooming you to accept how she would like things. Will you accept living like this throughout your marriage? b/friend has assaulted a female once before. Who is to say he wont do it again, to you or your baby. I know more about b/friend then I choose to tell you at this time. </p><p></p><p>All I can say is be careful. I will always love you and be there for you and your baby.</p><p></p><p>Love, Mom</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Masta, post: 73653, member: 308"] I have written a letter to difficult child explaining how i feel about the whole situation. i plan on handing her this letter tomorrow. here it is: difficult child, I really want to sit down and talk with you about your relationship with your b/friend. I feel if I was to do so we would end up saying things we really dont mean. I have put allot of information into this letter that I want you to think about. Having it written will allow you to read it over. You have a big decision ahead of you. It has come to my attention that b/friend is a sex offender and has been in the Juvenile Justice System along with having a Probation Officer. I will not disclose where I got this information. I am concerned about you getting married to him. If you feel like you have no way out and no where to live since leaving care and would like to leave the b/friends home you can. All you need to do is let me know. I do not like to be lied to, about the whole situation concerning the b/friend. A relationship with others should be based on trust, not based on a big secret lie. I cannot believe that anyone would want to plan a wedding within one month. Expecting others to jump in and save the day once they have already made plans, have put down deposits and paid for things. I have been told nothing is set in stone from the b/friend, but it has; the date, location, wedding dress, choreography and invites. This is not how a wedding is planned. Its unfortunate that more money was spent in California than on the most important day of your life. It seems like that trip has taken from your wedding. To bad the b/friend and his family insist on it being so soon. It was the b/friends and his dad who contacted me in search for money. They asked for assistance and naturally I asked about the plans. Im not sure why they cancelled their invitation to discuss it; of course I was going to have questions. It was our candid questions that revealed their attempt to manipulate. I guess they sent us away, declaring it interrogation, because their manipulation was revealed. I wish to attend your wedding if you will invite me. I also wish to remain a guest only, in order to support you. I cannot support your b/friend and his parents knowing that they kept such a big secret in order to get you out of care. For this reason we will not financially help you with your wedding to your b/friend. To do so would be saying your dad and I condone this wedding. I dont think marrying this quickly is a good idea, at the very least you should postpone it in order to think things through. I felt, since the day you found out that you were pregnant, that b/friends mom and b/friend have been controlling you. It seems you really want to please them, and you are going along with what they say. This is no way to live. b/friends mom is grooming you to accept how she would like things. Will you accept living like this throughout your marriage? b/friend has assaulted a female once before. Who is to say he wont do it again, to you or your baby. I know more about b/friend then I choose to tell you at this time. All I can say is be careful. I will always love you and be there for you and your baby. Love, Mom [/QUOTE]
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