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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 73744" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>First, I'm so sorry you're going through such an ordeal with your difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I have to say that I personally would not make the connection between the planning and the paying the deal breaker for me. For me, my not paying for the wedding would be more about the fact of how inappropriate a union like theirs is. They are too young, he is underage, it's too soon, they do not have any foundation whatsoever and the only reason they are sticking together is because of the pregnancy and his family's push and because your daughter is drawn to people who are troubled losers.</p><p></p><p>You have said that your difficult child constantly runs around with inappropriate crazy/troubled and backwards people, right? So, why would you consider financing a marriage into a family like that? It's pretty apparent that his family is pulling all the strings in this relationship. A marriage is between H & W, not their families. When they are mature enough and SMART enough to understand what a marriage is and really and truly want to commit to the same, then they will realize that it's just a piece of paper and legality - not a show - and they will get married according to those standards....not because his parents are telling them to and wanting you to foot a huge bill to do so. I think it's very ballsy of your difficult child, the boyfriend, and his parents to even suggest that you contribute to the cost of this sham of a wedding and marriage!! It isn't law that a bride's parents have to cover the cost of the wedding and if you do not agree with the match, now is the time to say so. </p><p></p><p>Yes, your difficult child may run right back into their arms, but she's already doing that, right? Even if you miraculously manage to get her away from the boyfriend, who will the next guy be? You said yourself that she makes the same choices in losers time and time again, right? </p><p></p><p>I like the idea of speaking with her and telling her how you feel and what you know about the boyfriend and his family. Then let it go. As far as attending the wedding - go with your heart. But remember, if you refuse to pay, she may very well disinvite you. Personally, I'd be okay with that after the way you've been treated and spoken to. </p><p></p><p>ps: Incidentally, I'm not against 'grand' weddings, they can be lovely. What I AM against is extorting the bride's parents of their savings just to put on a show. That's not right in my opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 73744, member: 2211"] First, I'm so sorry you're going through such an ordeal with your difficult child. I have to say that I personally would not make the connection between the planning and the paying the deal breaker for me. For me, my not paying for the wedding would be more about the fact of how inappropriate a union like theirs is. They are too young, he is underage, it's too soon, they do not have any foundation whatsoever and the only reason they are sticking together is because of the pregnancy and his family's push and because your daughter is drawn to people who are troubled losers. You have said that your difficult child constantly runs around with inappropriate crazy/troubled and backwards people, right? So, why would you consider financing a marriage into a family like that? It's pretty apparent that his family is pulling all the strings in this relationship. A marriage is between H & W, not their families. When they are mature enough and SMART enough to understand what a marriage is and really and truly want to commit to the same, then they will realize that it's just a piece of paper and legality - not a show - and they will get married according to those standards....not because his parents are telling them to and wanting you to foot a huge bill to do so. I think it's very ballsy of your difficult child, the boyfriend, and his parents to even suggest that you contribute to the cost of this sham of a wedding and marriage!! It isn't law that a bride's parents have to cover the cost of the wedding and if you do not agree with the match, now is the time to say so. Yes, your difficult child may run right back into their arms, but she's already doing that, right? Even if you miraculously manage to get her away from the boyfriend, who will the next guy be? You said yourself that she makes the same choices in losers time and time again, right? I like the idea of speaking with her and telling her how you feel and what you know about the boyfriend and his family. Then let it go. As far as attending the wedding - go with your heart. But remember, if you refuse to pay, she may very well disinvite you. Personally, I'd be okay with that after the way you've been treated and spoken to. ps: Incidentally, I'm not against 'grand' weddings, they can be lovely. What I AM against is extorting the bride's parents of their savings just to put on a show. That's not right in my opinion. [/QUOTE]
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