Well, we went to court yesterday and my son's PO filed a contempt charge (with our blessings) since he has continued to test positive + hasn't gotten a job as he was instructed and is totally apathetic about everything. The only condition he manages to follow is coming home at curfew 7:00 pm & he does go to whatever appointments we set up for him. I told the judge that we were going to send him to a rehab facility and then on to a boarding school (if I can find one we can actually afford) or at the very least the 5-month youth challenge program because he will not stop using drugs, wants to drop out of school and will not get a job. I told her I felt he didnt have any respect for the court or his parents & Id like him to suffer the consequences from the Court first. She agreed & sentenced him to 15-days in the juvenile detention center with a do not release attached which means we wont get a call saying we need to come & get him due to overcrowding, etc. They handcuffed him & carted him off he didnt look at me or say a word. The last time he went in (a couple of months ago) he was only there for a few hours & he was sent home on house-arrest. Ive read many postings all over the site and have been following Mikeys story in particular along with all of the advice given to him. Me and my husband were in denial a long time and were all talk and never any real follow through so I really relate to his situation. I have come a long way and also to the end of my rope. I cant live like this anymore. We all have become totally dysfunctional I cant even stand being home anymore so I just close myself off in my bedroom & read parenting books (just finished Tough Love, if you couldnt tell yet!) our difficult child watches TV, eats & talks to his difficult child friends on the phone our older difficult child is in her own world with no interest in her brother at all (and he knows it) my husband runs around trying to spend a few minutes with each of us - what kind of home-life is that? It aint Ozzie & Harriet thats for sure. I hardly ever talk to our difficult child anymore because we were TRYING to let him see the errors of his ways on his own and hopefully start making the right choices but he just doesnt get it. So, my question today is do you think we should visit him anytime during the 15 days or just leave him be? Thanks for listening to me ramble.